Go to the Bump Special Needs board, and page Auntie. She is a wonderful source of information regarding Autism/Aspberger's/ADD/ADHD kids.
Is there a school or district psychologist that you can meet with and discuss dx? I mean, one that goes beyond ADD. I think the trail goes school psychologist, pediatrician and then child psychologist, but I'm not sure.
Does he have an IEP to help him at school?
ALWAYS thinking of you guys!