Here's the backstory:
We have an opportunity to move closer to my job which is in SF. This would eliminate the bridge toll and the gas that it take to go from the East Bay to SF. Public transportation or ride sharing is not an option due to the location of my job. My husband has his own business, so the only thing that matters to him is that we are near an airport.
The pros of being our current enviroment is that my mom does childcare and DD is already enrolled in a preschool that she likes. The school goes all the way up to 8th grade and I kind of like that continuity. It is private though.
The pros of moving would be that I would be closer to work and able to spend more time at home. My job is really flexible so if I need to come home early or run DD somewhere I could. I would also save on commuting costs and I wouldn't be so tired. We could also get a larger place that would accomodate us better.
The cons of staying are that my commute would still suck and I have to deal with my mom which isn't the easiest situation but the childcare is free.
The cons of moving would be that I would have to find a new preschool but I could probably send DD to public school. I would have to get a nanny or something because my DH has an unpredictable schedule. The move would be to the peninsula
What would you do? What do you consider the most important thing? How would you go about thinking about it? DH is the type that like to make the decisions once we are under the gun so he doesn't discuss it much. I like to have a bit of a game plan in my head so I like to think ahead.