I'll try to keep this brief, but here's the background to my question. My father divorced my mom when I was two, and remarried a woman named Trish. They were married for 22 years and called it quits last year after questions of infidelity. Needless to say because I'm in the legal field, I was thrown in the middle of their divorce and had to basically make sure that it went off without a hitch (that everyone was treated fairly and that my father got what he wanted out of it). Anyway, a year later, after several dating stores with multiple women, my father found a new interest by the name of Linda. They met in March and were living together by May, but I didn't judge because I know from personal experience with my DH, if you live together you pretty much instantly figure out if you can stand that person or not. So, after a few months of hearing about Linda, I invited my father and her to come to AZ (they live in AR) so I could get to know her. I was optimistic about the visit, as I was 99.9% sure she would be better than my witch of a step-mom, Trish. Also, she has a daughter my age and has a few pets, so I thought she would feel pretty comfortable, since we had things in common. Well, they came to stay over Labor Day weekend, and from the moment I picked them up at the airport I got the vibe that she had no interest in me or my DH. I wrote it off them being tired from traveling and gave it another shot the next morning. However, despite the numerous "get to know you" questions I could think of, I would get literally one word answers from Linda. My DH even tried to strike up conversations with her about the freaking weather, and still got one word answers. Then to make it worse, I asked her to close their bedroom and bathroom doors so my kittens wouldn't get in there, and despite asking them several times, they left all the doors open for my kittens to shred the toilet paper across the house. Finally after many awkward moments, we decided to take a trip to Sedona to see the rock formations. My father and Linda talked the whole time, but didn't say a word to my DH and I. Finally, the last day of their trip, my father asked me my opinion of her, in which I told them I was really surprised by the lack of interest from Linda to try to get to know his only daughter, and I felt that she had no interest in anything other than herself and him, because he was the only one she would talk to (and she wasn't shy around him). He listened contently and tried to say that maybe she wasn't as talkative because he had already told her about me. I responded in saying that she would feel more comfortable in getting to know me if she would just ask questions or simply respond to mine. Needless to say, then returned home and got married this month. They have now re-invited themselves out here for sometime in January and I honestly don't want to go through that ordeal again. I've entertain several different people over the years, but it's pretty bad when you look forward to your in-laws coming to stay much more than your own parents. I haven't given them the "yay" or "nay" on their proposed trip in January, as frankly, I pissed that they would invite themselves, and I don't care for my father's new wife, Linda. What would you do? Would you suck it up and let them visit for a second time? I really don't want to relive that experience for a second time, as there isn't enough wine in the world to get me through it. Any advice would be really appreciated!