A quick background for those unfamiliar with my saga:
I've been DSS's stepmom and primary caretaker (SAHM, Student) for nearly six years now. His mom sucks. Doesn't call, forgets birthdays, Christmas, doesn't allow him to visit her, etc.
After saying she would never allow me to adopt him, she's arrested a month or so ago for non-payment of child support, and magically changes her tune. She agrees to sign the papers so I can adopt him. DH asks BM if we can have DSS's half-sister (who he raised for years as his own daughter) for a visit over spring break. She agrees.
Now the part that has me ready to smack a ***:
Why, after years of not allowing us to even speak with DSS's half-sister, did she agree to let us keep her for a week?
Why, so BM could run off to Busch Gardens without her, of course!
The reason this makes me so incredibly angry is that BM in her perpetual irresponsibility has allowed herself and her daughter to become homeless recently. They finally got an apartment after having no place to live, and within ONE MONTH of moving in, were evicted from the apartment. She and her daughter are now living with BM's new boyfriend. What will happen to her when the boyfriend gets wise and kicks her out? She'll be homeless again.
So basically, this poor girl gets to pay for her mother's mistakes time and time again, but never gets any of the benefits. Her mom has a long history of dumping her with various relatives in order to run off to vacations and theme parks.
I have five kids. I take responsibility for each and every one of them every day. I would certainly take a few days alone with DH to go on a vacation by ourselves if we had the opportunity, but you wouldn't catch me going to theme parks without my kids. And I certainly wouldn't blow my money at f*cking Busch Gardens when I didn't have a job or stable place to live.
Someone please talk me down. I feel the rising urge to smack a ***. And I'm a pacifist, but I would certainly turn my ring around for this one.