So I am the oldest and my sister is the youngest. Between us we have four years and a set of twins brothers. We have never gotten along and she has been spiteful towards me for the past ten years. She refuses to talk to me directly, ignoring my texts, calls and emails. She refuses to touch me in any form, even a handshake, can't compliment me to save her life. She, however, has a strong bond with our two brothers, as do I.
I always thought that by the time we both moved out, settled down and had kids she would at least try to have a relationship with me. But we are both out of the nest, settled down and she just announced that she is pregnant. She even expressed how she wanted to be close to her family.
So I started to contact her again and she contacted me back. It started out nice and sweet until I didn't get a joke one of her friends said about her pregnancy when we met up for lunch. It was a hurtful joke that seemed more like an insult. (You shouldn't complain because working a labor job and being pregnant is like vacation compared to my job as a manager.) She seemed hurt. She was frowning looking down at her stomach, and said "Gee, I hate you too, so-so." I defended her saying "You would never know what pregnancy was like because you are a male, so maybe you shouldn't talk about it."
Later that day, she sent me mean, hurtful, resentful texts, about how I couldn't take a joke, stating that male-friend (who is a recent ex and not the father of the child) is more of my family than I ever were. I try not to fight with her, so I said "I am here if you need me, and that I would still love to bond with you."
Then she commented on my FB wall that I was attacking her.
This "attack" was a link I put up to a radical
Christian leader protesting gay marriage. I said I would like to believe
that the anti-gay marriage movement is good at heart but nut-jobs like
this guy make me lose faith. She is pro-gay, like me, so this was out of
She then proceeded to call me ignorant, intolerant, dumb, foolish and a compulsive liar. Compulsive liar really hits home because she has called me one for about five years whenever I remember the smallest detail different from her own memory. And when she does this my family just stays silent, not defending either of us. Can you imagine being called that because you remember your brothers getting upset over getting a cherry birthday cake when they were young, like two or three?
And to make matters worse now her friends are bashing me on my own page. At this point, I just keep deleting all their bad comments, because any comments back to them would fall on deaf ears. If it goes much farther I am going to have to block them from my wall. Or even de-friend all of them, including my sister for good.
Now that you know the story what would you do? Have you dealt with family like this?