Think of your mother...whatever age she is now...and what she is doing.
What would you like your life to look like when you get there?
My mother turned 70 this past December. She was 16 when she got married and 17 when I was born. She went on to get a HS diploma, a BS and a MA in English, which is not bad for someone who lived in Germany until she got married. She is amazingly intelligent, observant, and wonderful with animals and small children.
Unfortunately, she never got over her anger at the bad things that happened to her early. She got more and more bitter and has pushed away everyone but my father. She is essentially alone, of her own design. She has refused to get help. I've spent most of my life NOT being her. I intend to continue!
Did I think this is where I would end up? Heck no. I knew I'd be with Gary, and I knew we'd have a child, a house and a bunch of pets. The rest has been a complete surprise!
When I am 70, I'd still like to be my daughter's best friend, married to my amazing husband, still singing, dealing with a load of pets, doing my volunteer work, being buddies with my grandkids, and walking on the beach each and every day.