I come from a very close Portuguese family. My dad always says we're thicker then theives..... until 2months ago.
My Dad has alot of health problems and my step-mom feels as though me my sister, brother and our significant others do not need to know everytime my father goes into the hospital. We have told her to call no matter the time and we will come to the hospital. Two months ago my dad was rushed back to the hospital after just being discharged from having surgery. My step-mom called no one, turned out he had a blood infection and as we all know a blood infection could possibly kill you.
Myself DH, sister and brother in-law were all extremly angry when we found out, my DH made a comment to my sister saying how bitchy our step-moms behaviour was and inconsiderate she was, my sister agreed.
about 3 weeks later my sister and I get into a huge argument over something stupid and she immediatley picked up the phone and called my dad telling him what DH said to her about our step-mom. My dad called me and chewed me out over it, DH got on the phone and apologized to not only my dad but step-mom as well saying it was in the heat of the moment and he was annoyed that we didn't know about my dad being in the hospital. Both parents said it was ok apology accepted, that was a load of crap.
I feel as though my sister owes DH an apology for running to my parents to "tell on him" when all he was doing was voicing his opinion. My sister disagrees and since me saying this has ruined pieces of clothing of mines she had borrowed and shoes saying she did nothing wrong and will not apologize. (I think shes lost her mind).
She has my dad wound so tight around her finger that my parents called to said after further discussions about this with my sister they feel as though they shouldn't have accepted DH apology and we were un-invited to Christmas with my family. My sister will not let me see my two nieces which is tearing me up inside. I haven't seen my dad for 2 months because my step-mom doesn't want us over but my dad isn't allowed to come to my house according to her.
I don't have a relationship wth my mom so my dad is the only family I have and I feel so alone. My brother is the only neutral party aside form aunts uncles and cousins. DH feels as though all of this is his fault.
I cry about this all the time and I jsut don't know what to do, I've tried talking and reasoning with my dad but everytime it turns into a fight, DH has tried apologizing 3 more times but he gets no response.
Sorry this is so long, I just don't know what to do?