So, DH called his cousin to verify that we needed to pay to attend and his cousin said yes. When DH asked why his cousin just said, " because it costs too much." What? REALLY!? DH didn't tell him how he really felt (I was surprised because DH doesn't usually hold back), but he told him that he might now be able to make it. I know DH feels really conflicted because his cousin was one of the few family members of his that came from NJ to TX for our wedding.
I emailed DH's aunt (cousin's mom) to see where they were registered so that I could send a gift in case we don't attend (which we're probably not). Aunt emailed back, "they're not registering since they're not having a reception (more on that later), so you can send a monetary gift to him and his fiancee. It needs to be check or money order." Thoughts on that?????
Oh and about the non-reception reception. Apparently, the venue has a banquet hall and restaurant. They're just renting out a private room in the restaurant. To me that still seems like a reception, but I guess since their isn't a DJ or band, they don't consider it a reception....maybe that's why they're charging everyone to attend.