My son is 24 & has a long time gf with family out of state. Both of them have graduated from college and have jobs but certainly $ is tight for both of them. My son's birthday is coming up in Feb. and he came home and said that for his birthday he would like for us to fly both of them to her family's for her brother's high school graduation in May.
Backstory: My son visited her family last Christmas and her parents took him to their "church" where the prophet walked over to him during the service & screamed in his face for at least 2 min. as he was revealing prophecy over him. We are Christian and my son has been raised in church, but he was very disturbed by this episode and actually brought home the CD so we could listen to the events as he described this incident to me. The gf was not allowed to go to the service as she didn't "need it". Her parents are very controlling and this is one reason she lives far away from them
Regardless of the family situation, I really don't see this trip as a gift that is really "for him" as it's his birthday. Her parents have not invited him, nor will they pay for the airline ticket for her to come home to go to her bro's graduation.
How would you handle this situation? The airline tickets will be about $800.