I was adopted at the age of 7 after being shuffled between biological father, biological mom, and grandparents. 2 years ago I was reunited with my biological father's side of the family who I hadn't seen in over 20 years when he died. Unfortunately I was never able to actually reconnect with him before his sudden death. His family grew up poor and never really had the ambition to really do anything with their lives except for one uncle. I have been back there a few times to visit and have become close with my cousin who does have ambition and wants to be nothing like her mother or anyone else in the family. My aunt, grandparents, and hubby have voiced their opinions about being in contact with that family again. They still think that the are good for nothings and I shouldn't associate with them. I am not trying to be like them, but I want to stay close with my cousin. How do I do this and can it be done?