Recently married, we have the fun tradition of splitting time for holidays and get togethers, which isn't really that much of an issue. We've tackled that pretty well. However, his family also celebrates every relative's birthday which is at least 1-2 dinners every month, sometimes more with the holidays. The real issue is that the kids (nieces and nephews) are ALWAYS SICK - either with a cough, throwing up, snotting all over the place etc. I'm not a germ-a-phobe, but I mean aren't they doing something wrong? And don't you stay home if you are sick, or if one of your kids are sick? I was brought up that if you are sick (or your kid) you stay home so you don't spread it. They also have the mindset that all their kids should be invited to attend a wedding, anything from a couple months old to a couple years old. It's like they will never ever leave their kids with a sitter or won't go to any type of functions without them. Thoughts, Advice?