I hope you have been enjoying your holidays. I need some advice on how I should handle my MIL. I will start the post by saying my DH is very supportive; he has intervened and spoken with his mother about her behavior. She cries, plays dumb or says she doesn?t think before she speaks. My relationship with my MIL has had its ups and downs. There are times when she is very funny and we enjoy each other, but there are other times when she is rude, pushy and intolerable.
My MIL was in attack mode on Christmas. One of the first things she asked was if she was ?getting us? on Easter. In the past, we have split Easter between my family and his family. Last year my husband suggested we host, since nobody had made plans and his sister, who had hosted for the last few years, was weeks away from giving birth. It turned out to be a war about how they never see us and how dare we host without consulting them. The emails came from his mother and sister. We moved forward with our plans and none of his family showed up.
Fast-forward to Christmas? I told my MIL DH and I really enjoyed hosting Easter and we will be hosting again this year. I told her everyone is invited and I was going to mention it in January. She lost it ? she said she never sees us. BTW, they live an hour away and they see us once or twice a month. His entire family live 10 minutes from each other, so 90% of the time we have a 2 hour roundtrip drive. She also said she will never come by our house for Easter because the holidays are all about the children and her grandbabies won?t be there. She also mentioned my SIL?s in-laws have nowhere to go, so my SIL will always host Easter. (My DH has 2 sisters and one of his sisters has 2 children.) My husband intervened and told her to stop. He said it?s Christmas and asked why she would bring up Easter? She didn?t reply. He then said she is purposely complaining and causing problems. Again, she said nothing to him, but she made sure to tell me she was mad at me.
Ok, my DH leaves the room and she said she knows when we have children she will never see them. I said nothing. I was fuming but I ignored her and left the room. A little later I walked in the kitchen and a family friend says she loves our Christmas card and mentioned how cute our dog is. My MIL turned around and said, ?I am sorry but there is nothing cute about that dog.?
Other comments were made but this gives you all a general idea. My DH and I have been together for 7 years and we have tried everything with her. My MIL and my DH had it out a couple years ago about her behavior. She turned it around on me and then cried. She was nice for a few months after that, but then she reverted back to her old self.
I just want to see how other people would handle this. Sorry this is so long. TIA!!