A friend of mine confided in me that she and her husband almost never have sex because she's always hated sex. I was totally blindsided by this admission and I had absolutely no idea what to say. She said they've had sex 3 times in 2010.
We're not super-close friends, but I think I may be her closest female friend here- she and her husband are German and have been in the US just 3 years. They're both 30-ish and have been married 4 years.
She lived with other boyfriends before, and said she felt the same way- that she never enjoys sex and that she actually feels like she's being raped. She said there's "no reason for it" and that she's "been to tons of therapists" and it hasn't helped. She also says that she is lucky that her husband has such a low sex drive that he doesn't mind that they almost never have sex.
Can a relationship really be healthy with no sex? She seems to think that hers is. I'm sure that this problem is far more complicated than I'll ever understand, and there's no right thing that I could possibly say to fix it. But if she brings it up again, what do I say? I know people on here will generally say that unhealthy sex life = unhealthy marriage, but... it is my place to assume her marriage is unhealthy and point that out to her? I feel like she's telling me this because she needs to tell someone to talk to about it, but I'm not sure what to say...