Before the wedding we could not wait to have sex. We came very close many times, but waited until the wedding night. Now 5 months in, we have sex once every 2-3 weeks and he says that we do it just enough to keep the desire alive...whatever that means. I am missing my honeymoon when we had sex 2-3 times a day! I am wondering if is masterbating while home alone (we work opposite shifts), and if that is a major componant of what kills his mood. I know I am masterbating, but that is because I am not getting any. And it usually makes me feel pretty crappy when I am done, because I feel like I should be wanted enough by my husband that I don't need to do that for myself. I am still pretty shy about talking about sex. I have tried to talk to him about it, and he usually feels like crap when we are done, feeling like he is not living up to my expectations of a husband. His affection level has gone up since our most recent talk, considering before it felt like he never even touched me at all unless we were having sex. I practically have to make him give me any kind of kiss besides a quick peck.
Please let me know if you have any suggestions on how to approach kindly and lovingly approach this topic, and try to convince him our lives could be so much greater if we can do this togheter. And lets hope that is all it is, and not something more serious.