For thanksgiving I went with my boyfriend to finally meet his parents with whom I have spoken with on the phone. They've always been friendly talking to me over the phone but after his mother got done with her grilling session things weren't so friendly.
Trav and I have been together almost 6 months, we know we want to get married but are in no hurry. We met at a concert and have been doing long distance from Boise (where I live) to Phoenix (his current place). I'm moving next week to AZ. I interviewed for a job and got it. I'll be dental assisting like I have for the past 6 years.
Travis is incredible. In HS he won every award for everything it seems like. He was captain of water polo team as well as wrestling and then went on w/ a wrestling scholarship and graduates Dec w/ his undergrad. Taking a year off for work and then applying to law school. Needless to say he has accomplished alot and goes for his goals. "The golden Child" Hes the baby of 2 boys.
The older brother T is a CPA his gf is getting her masters right now in family and marriage counseling. His family is well off- lives in Laguna Beach Cali. I come from a small town outside Reno w/ a not so well off family. None of us have gone to college. 5 kids and 2 parents. His family expects perfection.
During my trip I felt unnaccepted by his parents as well as his brother and SIL to be. His mom gave me the "He has goals chat and don't hold him back" along with "you need to have goals of your own" blah blah blah... in a nutshell - you aren't good enough for my son. Followed by his dad talking to him the next day and putting life in perspective. To which Trav let me know that I'm not "allowed" to live w/ him for a month because he doesn't want to disappoint his dad. meanwhile his gf -Me- has no where to live. W/ the cost of moving I don't have the money or the credit because of a shortsale to get my own apt. w/o working for at least 2 weeks first. 1 month would be ideal.
We drove there and back with his brother and SIL to be. driving there all they did was complain and argue while we sat quietly in the back seat trying to sleep for 6 hours. On the way back not one word was said to us. Not only did we leave a day late making Trav miss his classes. They didn't care about anyone but themselves.
Done with the babble... point being, His family is close. His mom stated she wanted her kids and whoever they end up with to be friends. ... problem 1: Thats not going to happen. Trav and I are very laid back where T and SIL are uptight and everything has to be their way. Problem 2: parents don't approve of me. When I discussed w/ Trav he stated it wasn't that they don't approve but they don't like our choices or my past. I can't change that and I don't want it to come down to Trav having to decide me or them. I don't think that's fair???? How should I settle things with the fam?