So instead of feeling wonderful and full and happy this Thanksgiving night, I feel sick to my stomach and ashamed of my family. Here's the vent....
Backstory: H and I got married in July. His parents are divorced, and his dad has been dating a wonderful woman for the past 5 years. They had 1 break in there, but have been tight. This woman would do anything for my H and his brother, is fiercely protective of him and has been more of a mother to him over the last few years than his own mother has.
My family, my mom's siblings and their kids, etc. always do a name exchange for whose going to buy who a christmas gift. I asked H's mom and his dad and his dad's gf to join it. Okay...
I started getting a lot of flack from my mom about it. I asked her what the problem was and she said she didn't know if people from our family knew them. I asked her when our family became so stuck up because they do know them, from last Tday and the wedding, and other events we've all gone to together.
Now tonight, everything is fine, I had called each and every family member and they all said that they would love to have my inlaws in the drawing. Done. EXCEPT, I get pulled away by one of my aunts who then proceeds to tell me that she is okay with H's mom and dad in the drawing, but NOT his GF. She said people either had to be engaged or married to enter. WHAT! I know I excluded H the first year we were dating from it, but we were young and it wasn't so serious yet. But he's been in it ever since. And his dad and the GF aren't getting married any time soon. FIL doesn't ever want to marry again. So my aunt said that it can slide this year since she said I didn't have to go back in the house and dismiss her from the drawing, but next year she can't be in it.
I guess I'm just so angry and shocked that that is the whole reason there was a fuss to begin with. I don't think it's fair. And now H is really upset because she is his family and he feels like it's a personal attack against her. I do too. What do you guys think? Does this seem weird? H has said if this happens again next Tday, he's backing out of the drawing himself. I just think my aunt has made a mess of things. I understand if FIL and GF had only been together 1 yr, or even 2. But 5 yrs and they live together. I think she qualifies. I never thought my family would be like this.
Ah, vent over, just sad.