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s/o off A Bedroom Issue

In the advice given in that post, everyone said, as long as it isn't happening all the time (her H not finishing while having sex) not to worry about it.

 But what if the guy doesn't finish during sex 90% of the time?  What would you make of that?

Re: s/o off A Bedroom Issue

  • .........Then it is clearly a sexual disfunction and needs skilled treatment.  The cause can be either a physical condition, indicative of the onset of disease or inappropriate medication,....or, more likely psychological.    I had this problem with a previous partner.   It was caused by a deep seated unease about the realtionship.
  • So if he can finish fine through masturbation, but not when having sex, it is probably psychological?

    I have suggested that he see a doctor about the issue, but he says it is "no big deal". 

  • image pinkglaze:

    So if he can finish fine through masturbation, but not when having sex, it is probably psychological?

    I have suggested that he see a doctor about the issue, but he says it is "no big deal". 

     

    No necessarily. He could just be so used to jerking it with a mad gorilla grip that your vag feels slack in comparison. In that case, he needs to stop masturbating for a week or two and it should help.

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  • image SweetCuppinCakes:
    image pinkglaze:

    So if he can finish fine through masturbation, but not when having sex, it is probably psychological?

    I have suggested that he see a doctor about the issue, but he says it is "no big deal". 

     

    No necessarily. He could just be so used to jerking it with a mad gorilla grip that your vag feels slack in comparison. In that case, he needs to stop masturbating for a week or two and it should help.

     

    Yeah, I've mentioned that to him, he says he can go a week or something and not do that.  But even then it doesn't really change anything.  I don't know why he just doesn't come to me instead, I don't turn him down when he does.  Next time it comes up, I'll let him know that maybe he should refrain for a little longer than a week. 

  • had the same problem... Have him stop masturbating.... it's what he's used to. My DH finally stopped masturbating on a daily basis when we got married and suddenly was able to achieve orgasm during sex.

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