I'm just wondering how different families handle gift giving for SO and in-laws?
My family has always taken the approach that no one is excluded, If you are under their roof for the holidays you are treated the same way the rest of the family is. They also don't give more gifts to those that have been in the family longer, you basically get similar things that they are giving to everyone else in the family.
My H's family has a different approach. They feel that families focus more on their own children, and not their SO. It's apparent that they have done things this way for a very long time, as my FIL still doesn't receive anything from the extended family. Only those that are, for lack of a better way of putting it, blood related to my MIL's side. So, when we have a gift opening at his parents', his sister's H and myself basically get to watch the two of them open gifts, while we might receive a small gift. It's the same at the extended family gift opening. Anyone that isn't of direct relation gets to watch those that are open gifts.
I have always made a point to give gifts to everyone that is my family, blood relation or not. I'm just wondering if most people do things this way or more like my IL's do?
I making this bold because it's a new question:
I'm also wondering if you would find the way my ILs handle gift giving as rude or crass? I have always tried to give the benefit of the doubt, but recently have realized that it wasn't just me that found it odd. Just wondering, TIA!