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Wantin' a Breast Augmentation!

So for years and years I have really wanted to have a breast augmentation! My future DH really really hates when I talk about it!  Is it best to stick to my guns and do what makes me happy! Or do I need to consider what he thinks? May I remind you I am extremely hard headed!! Help!!!

Re: Wantin' a Breast Augmentation!

  • What are your reasons for getting them? What are his reasons for you not getting them?

    You don't have to tell me, it's up to you. It's a personal decision but depending on the reasons your husband might have some good points.

  • Yes!! Very good post! I just want a self confidence boost !! I think he is scared that if I have it done then I will up and leave him! This is totally crazy! The reason being we have been in a LD relationship for almost 6 years!! So in my opinion I feel that I wouldn't do that at all and shallow at all!!! Thanks so much for the advice!!

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    Yes!! Very good post! I just want a self confidence boost !! I think he is scared that if I have it done then I will up and leave him! This is totally crazy! The reason being we have been in a LD relationship for almost 6 years!! So in my opinion I feel that I wouldn't do that at all and shallow at all!!! Thanks so much for the advice!!

    I mean no snark...but how old are you?

  • You should totally let your H dictate what you do to your body.


  • Your bio shows you're not married yet.  Which is it?
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  • Not married yet! I tried to say things like Future DH!
  • O I am 23 will be 24 next April! Why do you ask?
  • Probably because you sound really really young.
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  • Okay!! Explain? I mean I know we may not agree but I want more informaiton on why you feel this way! I promise I am  not trying to be rude at all and  I am a pretty open person.
  • Really? What gave you that idea? My Bio?

  • It's probably the overuse of !!!!!!!!11!!!!!!!!!!!1!!!!!!!111 exclamation points that gives off that impression.  
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  • lol! Sorry I always do that! I am really not wanna those girls who are like , "oh my god ....like.....like....like"  I never really noticed but I guess I do over use it a little!!! Pretty funny thought! I will try to hold back! Any who getting married in Jan. and advice? I am totally all ears.
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    lol! Sorry I always do that! I am really not wanna those girls who are like , "oh my god ....like.....like....like"  I never really noticed but I guess I do over use it a little!!! Pretty funny thought! I will try to hold back! Any who getting married in Jan. and advice? I am totally all ears.

    Chill on the exclamations.

     

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  • If you would have read the comment earlier than you would understand! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    If you would have read the comment earlier than you would understand! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Which comment would that be???????????????????  Because I've read all of them and I still don't understand.

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    lol! Sorry I always do that! I am really not wanna those girls who are like , "oh my god ....like.....like....like"  I never really noticed but I guess I do over use it a little!!! Pretty funny thought! I will try to hold back! Any who getting married in Jan. and advice? I am totally all ears.
    One of, not wanna. 

    Advice? Find confidence in yourself based on your inner strengths and who you are truly as a person.  Consider counseling.  I'm all for breast enhancement for women that have lost breast tissue to surgery, but I think if you are looking for a confidence boost then you have an issue inside that no surgery will fix.

    Can you afford the surgery?

  • Take the money you would have spent on a boob job and invest it in your education!

    !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • If you want it- go for it. He'll get over it.....OK maybe that's not the most constructive response but honestly I feel like it is your body and if it is your body+ your money (you aren't married yet) then if you genuinely think it will make you happy- why not?
  • I guess I will just never understand why women feel they need b00b jobs to feel better about themselves.  To balance out a body shape, sure.  To fix a medical issue, absolutely.  But for self confidence or so more boys will look at you?  Not good.  Just MHO.  The way your H looks at you should be the only one that matters.  And maybe he likes you just the way you are.  Again, just MHO.

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  • I'll bite here.

    I had a breast reduction, and it was the best thing that I ever did.  It improved my self-esteem immensely.  It also cut down on back pains and generally improved my overall health.

    Breast augmentations are slightly different because, in general, they don't generally improve overall health. In fact, they can reduce your overall health.  No implant (of any type) will last for an entire lifetime.  So, you're not looking at one augmentation surgery, you're probably looking at one every 10-20 years.  There are risks to adding foreign substances to your body, which can be reduced based on the type of implant you obtain. 

    Also, breast augmentations are different from breast reductions in that just about any surgeon can make a reduction look natural, but it takes a really good surgeon to make an augmentation look natural.

    Frankly, I don't care what your future DH wants or doesn't want.  It's your body.  Do what you want.  Just understand that making your decision with considering his input can have consequences that you might not like.

    PS: do give your body a chunk of time to adjust before getting your wedding dress altered if you go through with the augmentation.

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    Breast augmentations are slightly different because, in general, they don't generally improve overall health. In fact, they can reduce your overall health.  No implant (of any type) will last for an entire lifetime.  So, you're not looking at one augmentation surgery, you're probably looking at one every 10-20 years.  There are risks to adding foreign substances to your body, which can be reduced based on the type of implant you obtain. 

    Also, breast augmentations are different from breast reductions in that just about any surgeon can make a reduction look natural, but it takes a really good surgeon to make an augmentation look natural.

    This. Perhaps your FI is not attracted to fake boobs, or worse, finds them to be a complete turn off? 

    And have you weighed all of the risks vs. benefits? Like the PP said, it takes a really good surgeon to do this surgery well, but some surgeons out there don't know what they're doing at all. I'm sure you could google "botched breast implants" and see what comes up.

    You should not get this surgery because you think it is going to be a quick fix for your self esteem. It is something that you'll have to live with the consequences for the rest of your life, and they may not be as good as you think.

  • Big boobs are highly over rated. I have had them since I was 14 or so and they are a pain in the behind. In fact, I've accidently worn shoes that don't match because I have to lean over to see my feet. They make me look heavier, shirts don't fit properly, and I can't stand still for more than an hour without back pain. I believe that when I'm 80 I'm going to have to throw one over each shoulder and tie them in the back or maybe tuck them in my pants.

    I suggest you talk to some much older women who have had implants to hear about the consequences down the road. There are better ways to build confidence.

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    This. Perhaps your FI is not attracted to fake boobs, or worse, finds them to be a complete turn off? 


     

    Believe it or not this is true.  This is exactly how my H feels about them.  He thinks they're gross.  And frankly I think Heidi Montag looked much prettier before all her surgeries.  In fact I think she looks ridiculous with the ginormous things she has on her chest.  They don't match her frame at all!

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  • The thing that makes a woman lack confidence more than anything is being in her teens or early twenties, regardless of shape.  In five years you'll probably think your breasts are just fine, surgery-free.
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  • Listen JA I currently have an education!

  • I got a breast augmentation about two years ago and never once regretted my decision.  I had a BF at the time and I honestly didn't really consider his feelings because it was for ME and no one else.  I was paying for it entirely myself as well.  If you expect your future DH to contribute to the cost or if it will come out of a mutual account or credit card then I think you should consider his feelings.  You will need him on board somewhat though to help you with recovery, etc.  Maybe if you give him all the facts and information he would feel more comfortable.  He could even go with you to a consultation so he understands the process and knows the surgeon performing the surgery.  This may help as well to keep him involved in the process.
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    Listen JA I currently have an education!

    Your incoherent sentences, misspelled and misused words, and extraneous punctuation beg to differ.  This is the internet, and people can only go by what they read.  So either learn to type coherently and sensibly or people will never take you seriously. 

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  • You've been in a LD relationship for 6 years, and you're getting married in 2 months? How much time have you two actually spent together, to make him worried that once you have big boobies and self-esteem you'll leave him?
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  • i tell myself that i naturally have what women like you will spend thousands of dollars to have.  i've been large-chested ever since puberty, and i'd gladly give you some of mine!  
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