I resigned from my board position/coaching position with AYSO Soccer. I was being constantly bullied by other board members (all older men) and finally decided I could not handle it any longer. I am really sad about it, but know it was a necessary decision. Anyone ever had to make a choice like this? Words of wisdom?
Lindsay
Re: Very Sad....
As someone who played AYSO, I am sad for you - all my coaches were old men -
I think you did the right thing though, it is unhealthy to be in a position where you are constantly being bullied. Maybe try and spend some of your new spare time with family/friends or pursuing another interest...
I am sorry to hear that. I was once teaching in a school where I was not getting along with the parents and the administrator. I also felt like I was getting bullied. I made the choice to leave. Looking back at it now, it was one of the best decisions I ever made.
If you are getting stress through your hobby, then it isn't worth it. Are there other organizations that you can coach for?
I had to leave my last job because of bullying. The bully was my 50-ish female boss. I still cringe when I think that I hung around that job for as long as I did.
It was a hard decision to make. On one hand, I loved my job. But the bullying was affecting other areas of my life. I was always moody and because I was bullied, I was in turn being nasty to DH.
Immediately after I resigned and left, I bawled my eyes out because I felt like I made the wrong decision. But after that, I felt good about what I did.
It will take some time to get over it, but just know that you made that decision for yourself, and that's what matters.
Do the creep.
I feel like you were wise to have that self-respect for yourself. I would want to try and write a letter to someone with authority tho, and let them know why I left if it were me. I like to make sure that issues like this addressed, and people get called out on their bad behavior.
It's a shame those kids are missing out on a female influence in the sports world. Old men are overrated! :-)
Thanks Ladies...
Branz7- I agree and I am in the process of writing to the National board. Thanks again for everyones support.
Lindsay