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Interview update, and a question about references...

So today I had my interview for a position I really want at the college I went to. Apparently I did ok, because I just got an email from my interviewer saying that I am definitely one of the finalists, and they want to see a list of professional references.

Only thing is... I'm not really sure who my references should be! I've been debating over this for a while. I work for a very small company and have basically been the only employee of my boss for the past 4.5 years. A few other employees have come and gone, but no one has stayed for more than 6 months. We have new 2 employees now, but have only been here since the spring.

So do I tell my boss that I applied for this job and ask him to be my reference? (my sister is convinced that I should), or do I scrounge around and use some slightly less relevant references (like my 5 year part time job boss, and the more current co-worker that was only here for 6 months) so as not to tip off the boss that I am looking around for a new job just yet... 

Thoughts??  I'm thinking that I need to figure this out over the weekend so that I can get him the references on Monday.

 

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Re: Interview update, and a question about references...

  • If you feel like you have a good rapport with your boss, and you don't feel like he would hold it against you, definitely ask him.  He could probably be a great reference that is able to speak to your current work performance.  However, if you don't feel comfortable, then I would use the other references.  No matter what, I'm sure everyone will be saying positive things about you so I'm sure it won't matter that much.
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  • What'd you decide? I agree with cdobs that you should ask your boss if you don't think it would be held against you in any way. I didn't ask my boss to be a reference for a part-time position I applied for last month because I didn't really want anyone to know I will be doing part-time work, so if you don't want your boss to know you're wanting to leave, that's another issue and I'd find someone else to serve as a reference.
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  • Thanks for the advice! My decision was to not tell my boss yet. I contacted both of my other reference options this morning and they both said they'd have great things to say about me. As far as the current boss goes, I decided to side with discretion because I know its a tough job market out there in my field and even though my boss is really cool, I don't want to risk my relationship if this position doesn't work out. And really, the other references I have are relevant, one is within my current field and the other is from my longtime part time job, which should be good to show my dependability and work ethic.
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  • What did you end up doing megs? That's a tough situation. If you feel that telling your boss would not harm your working relationship and he wouldn't do anything to terminate your job or make your job miserable when he finds out your looking go for it. If you don't want him to know at all, then I wouldn't ask him to be a reference.

    Personally, I have never used a current boss as a reference. One reason being I hate awkward situations and if I ended up not getting the job I was going for, it would be weird. Another reason, Ohio is an "at will" state as far as employment, so I always figured if I told a boss I was looking they could/would fire me then and there.

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  • mb&d, I played it safe and kept the boss out of the loop for now. Though I think my boss would take it well, I would still feel insanely awkward if I didn't get the new job.

    I sent over my other references today and am crossing my fingers :) 

     

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    Baby #1 EDD 11/13/13
  • I think you made a good choice.  In today's job market, better to err on the side of caution.  I hope it works out for you!
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    IVF w/ICSI #2 (April 2011): c/p
    FET #1 (July 2011): m/c at 7w3d
    IVF w/ICSI #3 (October 2011- new clinic): BFP.

    Lainey was born on June 13, 2012 via c-section at 37w3d! :)

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