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Bridesmate Pregnant by Uncle
I got married last year and recently found out my step-sister who was also one of my bridesmates has been having an affair with her uncle by marriage. We are semi-close, but I noticed a change in her behavior before the wedding. I shrugged it off thinking she's just a single mom trying to make ends meet and was just tired or whatever (and I don't like to pry). But to make matters more uncomfortable she's now PG by him. When I asked her who the father is she changed the subject real quick. The whole family knows now as she and the uncle don't deny it and she's pretty far into her pregnancy. I'm shocked and saddened, I thought I selected someone as a bridesmate as somebody I could count on as a woman and individual, but she turned out to be somebody I can't trust. I'm not angry at her, I'm just in disbelief and don't know what to say to her now.
Re: Bridesmate Pregnant by Uncle
Bridesmaid. Couldn't resist.
WTF does this even mean?
How is any of this your business? Either you accept that your relationship with your bridesmaid has changed or you can try to build on your friendship while she's going through a difficult time.
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this!
what is it any of your business??? i dont think it was done to hurt you, so let them make their own choices. however, your wedding is over so their life shouldnt "affect" you as much
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So, she let you down? Because she needed to not only stand up for you at your wedding, but lead a chaste life to fulfull your needs for perfect female role models in your life and marriage?
Way to make this awkward pregnancy all about you. Plus, you get to be a snob about it. Way to go.
Clearly.
It's one thing to be upset that your step-sister had an affair with an uncle.
It's another to tie it back to your wedding and how this has now ruined your world.
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Repeat this to your self: My Wedding Party is made of my family and friends and I should treat them as such.
Did your stepsister meet the uncle at your wedding? Do you feel somehow at fault for them having an affair? Like the PP, I don't understand why you feel involved with this issue. It was their choice to enter into a relationship, and now that she is pregnant, it has become public knowledge and I'm sure they are both embarrassed and feeling judged by the whole family. If you are close to your stepsister or your uncle, I would talk to them about the situation and ask them how they would like the situation handled. But it sounds like you are one of the people judging their actions, and not ready to support them.
This is none of your beeswax, so mind your own.
MYOB.
If you don't think you can trust her, tell her you do not want her to be your bridesmaid anymore and find a replacement.
i'm also confused about that statement. is there some sort of moral litmus test a person needs to pass in order to be in a wedding party?
Apparently, she's already explained herself pretty clearly.
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She's pretty lucky to have you in her life.
Gawd.
Wait, so hang on. Your step-sister was a single mom, but she had an affair with her uncle by marriage? So I'm guessing this guy is her ex-husband's uncle? She is in no way related to this person, and the uncle is not related to you?
Mmmkay.
1) This is so not your business.
2) The fact that they were once related by marriage is certainly awkward, but if she is a "single mom" then they are not related in any way NOW, by marriage or otherwise. So why is this such a tragedy?
3) What does her being in your wedding party a year ago have to do with anything?
LOL!!! OMG, I'm dying! I think I may have even peed a little!
They aren't related in any way. They fell in love as people do. Now they are having a baby. It seems that you and the family should offer her congratulations on the upcoming arrival