Father's day was a few weeks ago, and my husband (we've been married almost 2 years) and I decided it would be fun to organize a dinner with the family for father's day. It was to be my father in law, his wife (my stepmother in law), my two sister in laws (one older, one younger), my niece (younger sister in laws daughter) and younger sister in laws boyfriend (and niece's father). Whew... hope you'll followed that! Anyways, father in law doesn't really like sister in law's boyfriend, but we didn't want to really cause any problems, and sister in law would have thrown a major fit if he wasn't invited.
To make a long story short, my older sister in law freaked when she found out who was invited. She didn't understand why sister in laws boyfriend, stepmother in law, and myself were invited... since this was FATHER'S day (exactly how she put it) and it should only be the kids. My husband told her she was crazy, that we cannot not invite his wife, and that I was his daughter in law, and that sister in laws boyfriend is the father of his granddaughter. Older sister in law complained to my father in law and he gave in to her and called my husband and asked that I not attend. At that point my husband told father in law that in that case neither one of us would attend. I didn't necessarily agree with this, as I told my husband it would be easier for me just to not attend and not deal with his family craziness. He said that if we gave in to them on this it would be opening up a pandora's box of crazy.
So now his older sister is not speaking to us... she's also mad because husband and I were supposed to pay for everybody at this dinner (of course... since it was out idea and we invited everybody) but as soon as we both backed out so did payment. Apparently father in law ended up paying for his own dinner.
Is there anything I should do at this point to right things between my husband and his family? He refuses to speak to them unless they call and apologize (which I'm pretty sure they won't).