My sister is getting married this year & I'm her co-MOH. Most of the bridesmaids are young (college aged, 22 at the most) and their idea of a party is a keg or a night at a bar, not sitting around eating finger sandwiches & punch. I want to do a shower for her but traditional etiquette says that the bride's immediate family shouldn't host a shower. I've found some modern etiquette guides that say it's ok.
So, is it tacky or not? Would you be shocked if you were invited to a shower the bride's older sister was hosting? Or would you only care if you were 80 years old?
Re: Is this tacky?
Personally, I wouldn't think twice about it, but I'm not one that's known for adhering to "traditional" etiquette. I actually think I've been invited to showers thrown by a sister of the bride. Obviously it didn't horrify me to the point that I bothered to remember it, lol.
ETA: I would definitely check with the other co-MOH to make sure you're not stepping on any toes and that she didn't already have something planned.
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I had a man of honor and my older sister was my only other attendant. She hosted my shower and my other sisters and mom helped. I don't think it's tacky at all.
By the way, I was invited to a bachelorette party a few weeks ago and the average age was 14 years younger than me. Um, thank you but ... no. So, I know what you mean about the age gap.
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I wouldn't necessarily look at the family side of it exclusively - what are the responsibilities of the MOH in re: to a shower?
Honestly - unless you're inviting Emily Post, screw the rules and do what makes your sister happy. It's her wedding, not Emily's.
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I was thinking the exact same thing.
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