I am a first time poster but long time reader. Me and my wife are going through some things and I am curious if anyone else has been through this, or has any good advice for me. I want to start out by saying that I love my wife very much. We have been maried for 2 years and were together for roughly 2 years before that. We do not fight, or argue and generally spend alot of time together. I am happy with our life in general. Lately there has been a diconnect between us. We do not have sex very often and I feel a general lack of effection from my wife. This in turn makes me try harder which is only pushing her farther away. This weekend she told me that She loves me but is not sure if she is still in love with me. After many hours and hours of talking about what to do next I came to the conclusion that we both need to be in the relationship for the same reasons and at the same level or there is no point in continueing it. I gave her the choice to say "yes" and we stay together and work out the issues or "no" in which I would leave and we would most likely get a divorce. Thank god she said yes. I really did not want to lose my wife when I am still very much in love with her. I am still pretty scared by the situation and am havign a hard time thinking of anything else.
My wife is under alot of stress and I think she is depressed. We are only a couple months past a misscarriage and there are a few other things that are generally bringing her down. I want to help her, I want her to go talk to someone, I want us to go to counceling and get help with our marriage. I am hoping that this is just a phase and it will pass and we can go back to beign the loving couple we have always been. I know there is no answer to why this is happening that anyone can give me, my wife included. I am just looking for any kind of advice or help that anyone who has been through this can offer.