My husband and I are finally in the process of buying a house after moving out of state last year. My MIL and FIL were planning on coming to visit 2 days after we close on the house so my MIL could "help us settle in and paint" - for no less than 2-3 weeks. We're buying a house, not having a child. I can't wait to see what happens then. We have a couch set and a bed, we're not in position to outfit a guest room within 48 hours of moving in. Also she can be very critical and condescending without realizing it. Quite honestly I do not want their help, my husband and I are very excited to do these things together. I actually feel her request is inappropriate and out of line - not in a rude way but in a stepping over the line kind of way. My husband quickly shut this down because the timing is just too stressful. So now the plan is for them to visit at the beginning of August so we have time to actually move in. However they still want to stay for much longer than I am comfortable with. My husband feels that anything over 3 weeks is just too much. Meanwhile I'm thinking "THREE WEEKS?!?!? Are you kidding me?" I feel 2 weeks is more than generous. Two weeks is me really stretching. I would really prefer 1 week. We can't afford to take that kind of time off of work, and we won't be.
I'm trying to be understanding in that the family is now spread out over a few states and she wants to spend as much quality time as she's able to, but come on! Am I being unreasonable? What do you think is an appropriate length of time to visit? Is there a way to say "You're welcome to visit but not for that long" without hurting her feelings? Is this a sign of future trouble to come?