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Heating things up

I don?t really know if this is the right place to turn to. I?m pretty new to nest and am looking for some advice. I have been married to the man of my dreams for nearly two years now. Things in the bedroom are getting a bit slow though. It seems like we are getting into a bit of a rut. What are some good ways to heat things up and turn him on?

Re: Heating things up

  • Start small.:) Hop into the shower with him; let nature take its course. Or you invite him into the shower or tub with you.
  • - get a sexy outfit

    - watch porn

    - buy some sex toys

    - give him road head 

    - have sex in a strange place

    - have him spank you and pull you hair

    - scream loud enough your neighbors hear you and you get a sore throat

     

    good luck! Smile

  • Does he have any fantasies you two could play out?

    Most of my other suggestions have already been mentioned, but have you ever gone to somewhere like Lover's Package? Going together could give you ideas to spice things up. They also have tons of games for couples that can give you a little inspiration.

  • I agree with the shower post, always works Wink

    When life hands you lemons, you throw them back in life's face and say "F*ck you, I want some Orange juice, B!tch! Make it happen!"

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  • Try taking it out of the bedroom. If you're not comfortable trying it out and about...try it in a new part of the house. It tends to shake up the routine a bit. DH and I have discovered some awesome positions that way.
  • Time is a big factor in a relationship.

    Getting away and spending time together can be the key.

     

  • Toys help.  DH and I keep a crystal bowl full of kinky little ideas by the side of the bed, and a couple nights a week we break from our normal routine and pick one out at random.  Whenever one of us thinks of something we drop one in, and it's a lot of fun!
  • image kelly-sean:
    Toys help.  DH and I keep a crystal bowl full of kinky little ideas by the side of the bed, and a couple nights a week we break from our normal routine and pick one out at random.  Whenever one of us thinks of something we drop one in, and it's a lot of fun!

     That sounds super fun what kind of things do you have there... sorry to be nosy just would like some ideas for me and dh

  • My hubby and I have started running together. I know it sounds counter intuitive, because exercise will tire you out.  Exercise also increases the production of testosterone in both men and women (though more in men, that's one of the reasons they lose weight and put on muscle faster). More testosterone equals higher sex drive in both of you. 

    When we're done with our run, we stretch together. Go ahead and ask for help stretching you hamstrings!

  • try walking into a normal activity like watching tv or doing the dishes naked... that should shake something up. :D
  • The shower is a no-fail!!  It always works.  But the toys and hair pulling can help a lot too 
  • I think a lot of the PP suggestions are good ones. Except for porn. That should never be a part of your relationship.

     

    Try being flirty with him. Compliment him more or make side little sexual comments to him. They are sure to get him excited!

  • Hi!

     

     I have also been married about 2&1/2 years now, and know just what you mean. :) It can really suck, and really make you feel bad about yourself, and even your relationship at times, especially when it seems everyone else is horny for each other all the time, haha!

      My husband and I are not crazy sex-addicted lovers, but we DO very much enjoy making love, and it is never boring or un-enjoyable when we do. My biggest problems are: A. being really really tired after a long day at work, B. Having a low sex-drive partially from being tired, partially I think due to hormones, and C. He wants it, and wants it NOW, and forgets I need a little foreplay sometimes, lol. :) My husband is so great, and never pushes for anything, he doesn't want to have sex unless I do (which makes me feel bad sometimes when I just don't feel like doing it). 

     Anyway.

       I was at work a few weeks ago and we were texting off and on as usual, and he started complimenting (in detail) my body (and what he wanted to "do" to me later, lol), so I got really turned on. It basically turned into a giant episode of "sexting," and by the time we were both home from work, we were still really turned on. It's been a lot better since then, and I honestly have felt better about myself. Sexting may be common, corny and awkward at first, but it actually has become a bit fun to me! I hope that helps, I know how frustrated you must feel.

      My husband and I shower together pretty much every time we take a shower, so that doesn't really do a lot for me, and I think it's pretty much a normal thing for him by now too....so that's not something that helps us. 

     

    Good luck! 

  • image jaydollar:

    Time is a big factor in a relationship.

    Getting away and spending time together can be the key.

     

     I totally agree with this one. 

     Porn is not the way to go. It's not real and its a misconception of how things really are.   

     Getting away with one another is the best way to reconnect.  Getting away from the stress of everyday life can definitely help.


  •   I've always had great success with a skirt and forgetting to put on my underwear.
      In particular if the situation forces extended anticipation due to us not being able to obtain some private time together until much later.
       It's all about the fantasy, dream, goals, anticipation etc." It's the getting not the having" which creates excitement.
       DH tends to notice this if I accidentally drop something on the floor in a restaurant as he picks it up. On occasion my skirt has inched it's self up a little while driving down the highway. Same has happened in movie theaters, house parties, soccer games. After swimming while wearing a towel wrap etc.
  • I got home before my man does in the evening.  I started taking off my clothes and leaving a trail to the bedroom.  Leave your pants (skirt), blouse, shoes, nylons, bra, underwear as a trail to the bedroom.  Be waiting in bed with your best lingerie on. This got my man HOT,

    Try cooking for your man in just an apron!  Nothing else.

    Try wearing a very thin white T-shirt with no bra & really short shorts when he comes home from work.

    I agree, Porn has no place in a relationship!

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