This is long, I apologize. Considering I just answered the Monday post about going out with friends tonight you guys are going to assume I am the flake. Rest assured the friends.I am seeing tonight and the friends I am going to lament about are different.
The Mr has had this friend since middle school. They are pretty close, in fact when we got married this friend preformed our ceremony, this friend was to be the Mr?s best man but then we took our wedding in another direction. This friend is married and while we like his wife neither of us really get along with her that well. Not that we fight we just don?t have much in common to talk with her about when we are all hanging out in a group. She?s nice but very fanatic about things like weight, religion, having children. All respectable things but she takes it to an unbearable level when she brings them up. It?s all she ever talks about and it?s very hard to have a conversation with her that does not go in one of those directions. We?ve never discussed any of this with the friend and have never made ourselves ignorant toward her. We want to spend time with our friend so we?d never really bring up how we feel about her to him.
Lately though when we, as well as other friends of ours, have invited them out to various things they always saw yes initially then cancel at the last possible minute. For example we were all going camping this weekend and right up to the time I got off work they were in then suddenly as we were leaving town the Mr. gets a text from his friend stating they can?t make it anymore. This happens almost every time we ask them to do anything with the excuses being we?re sick, we?re tired, we have to go to bed early/get up early. It?s frustrating because I don?t know if it?s someway our fault. Have we kind of given away that it?s hard to be around her and they are angry at us, are they just pulling away from the group for themselves (in which case tell us! We?re all grown ups), is one or the other being controlling or are they truly just tired. It seems like excuses and maybe I am reading too much into it but we really miss having him around, it feels like something is missing when we are all together.
I guess I am wondering if we should do anything about it like talk to him even though I am not sure any of us want to do that nor do we think it will help. I really don?t expect an answer or solution but I need to get this out to someone outside of the situation.