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having problems

My H and I have a good sex life. I recently went off birth control in november and he was loving it because we had sex more. Now recently we painted our bedroom so we slept in the living room for like 5 days i think. since then its been about two weeks and we haven't had sex. He would say something and I make a sexual comment back and he would say no thanks. Its really upsetting me. We both workout and he tells me I'm losing weight and getting fitter. I dont know what the problem is.

He keeps telling me he wants to TTC.

I just dont know what to do!

Re: having problems

  • So you guys had a good sex life before you went off birth control.  And your sex life was great after you went off birth control.  But recently there has been a drop off.

    I would have a long talk with your DH.  I think he is having nerves about having a baby.  Doesn't mean he doesn't want to have a child, but he does have fears.  He is voting with his penis.  Be willing to postpone TTC for 6 months to ease his fears. 

  • The weird thing is HE is the one who brings up TTC not me!
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    The weird thing is HE is the one who brings up TTC not me!

    Explain to him WHAT you have to do to make a baby.

    Talk to him about the lack of sex.  

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  • image adriannaryan:
    The weird thing is HE is the one who brings up TTC not me!

    Very strange.  Is there any other reasons why he might not into sex, work stress, maybe baby nerves.  I know guys at work talk about it all the time,  how they realize the reality of the situation.  Talk to him about it and start scheduling some sexy time!

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  • Why does he want to TTC?  Is he truly ready or does he think it's "the next step" so its time to do it, even if he's not 100% on board yet?  I think its time for a heart-to-heart on this.  Be prepared to hold off on the TTC - you have loads of time.  You're still newlyweds, right?  Everything changes when the baby shows up.

    Or it may be totally unrelated, like Riderpunk suggested.

     

  • No one has mention this but it could be a problem. You mentioned that you both work out and he likes the new fitter you; could he like the new you so much that he's worry that the fitter "you" might not come back if you get pregnant therefore he is trying to stay away from you sexually? Men sometimes have crazy ideas.

    Overall, ask him. 

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  • Can someone please tell me what TTC means. Thanks
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  • Thank u sailfish20. I wanted to know the same thing.
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  • Heres another one of those... "I work out and he tells me I look good" post...I don't understand this. So because you workout you all are supposed to have high sex drives all the time?

    SMH. 

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    Heres another one of those... "I work out and he tells me I look good" post...I don't understand this. So because you workout you all are supposed to have high sex drives all the time?

    SMH. 

    LOL!

  • Talk to him about it. That's really it. You won't know out what's going on until you guys get it all out there.
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