I just had a conversation here with a woman getting married soon. She has decided to invite everyone from her church to her ceremony but only some people to the reception. She wanted to know how to word the invitation to make that clear without being rude.
I think that is the rudest thing to do unless your ceremony and reception aren't on the same day. I know some people disagree but I feel like if you can't invite someone to both then don't invite them at all unless it's the case of doing the ceremony in one state and the reception later on at home or something. I told her that I didn't think she could really word that on the invitation. So, she has decided to invite people who are only invited to the ceremony by sending an email.
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Tacky....
I think being invited to the reception and not the ceremony is ok in some cases. Like I said the other day, two friends got married 2 years ago. The church was really small, and 90% of the guests invited to the church were family. They worded the invitation something like "family-only ceremony." They invited everyone to a lovely reception immediately following the ceremony. (and I do mean lovely with lots of yummy food, cake, and dancing!)
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I agree with Trish,
It's really rude to invite someone to the ceremony only!
I think this is okay. I've been invited to a wedding where this was the case and I wasn't offended at all. I just don't like it the other way around b/c to me it screams "get me a gift but I don't want to spend any money on you"
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Ditto to both statements. Family only ceremony is ok, but not the other way around!
i have several coworkers who didn't get why this was tacky. they think everyone should want to share in their wedding...but not everyone gets to come to the party.
so. tacky.
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