My husband and I have been married for about 4 months now and about 3 months ago he got a new job, which puts us on completely opposite schedules. We have been together for almost 4 years total and during that whole time we have been pretty much on the same schedule.
He's now a chef and doesnt get out of work until late at night now, but the problem I have is that he is constantly wanting to go out afterwards to the bar where everyone at work goes to. This has been an ongoing problem and I thought we had put it behind us when we made an agreement that he can go out once a week. Even though we have this agreement, he still is always asking to go out, and it hurts me because I feel like he is putting his new friends over me, especially since we dont see oneanother os often as we used to. I want him to come home to me, but more importantly, I want him to want to.
This past weekend we went out on saturday night and sunday when he got off work he calls me and says that he wants to go out for just a drink. I tell him that I want him to come home since we were just there the night before and his reposnse was "well, I'm going" he promised that he was only going to spend the cash in his wallet, but since we were fighting about it he stayed longer than he originally said and spent more than he promised... It really upsets me that he did that in spite of me and what I got from the whole incident is that he doesn't care about what I say or how I feel, he's just going to do what HE watns to do...
He thinks I'm making an issue over nothing, am I? Or how can I make him understand that its not about control with me, its about repsect?