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Advice

My sister in law is asking anyone and everyone for advice. Her 4 year old keeps pounding on her 2 year old. Any suggestions to help stop this?

Re: Advice

  • Tell her to put her dress making business aside and parent her children.
  • imoanimoan member
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    The answer is obvious... she has to kill the 4 year old.  YWIA!
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    The answer is obvious... she has to kill the 4 year old.  YWIA!

     

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  • Its called sibling rivalry.  She needs to separate them immediately, and punish(whatever punishment works-time out, etc) the 4-yr old EVERY SINGLE TIME!  Also, the 4-yr old could be acting out because he is tired, hungry, bored or seeking mom/dad's attention.  Those are all fixable, btw. 

    MY dd is 3.5 and a complete handful.  She has a witching hour around 5pm every night so I know she is tired but it is extremely hard to get her to mind.  Ah, 3-4 year olds....they don't come with manuals! 

  • GBCKGBCK member
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    need more background.

    when is this happening?

    any clues as to why?

    what's the rest of lifelike?

  • Put the kid in time out!

    I have the opposite problem, my 1 year old daughter bites my 3 year old son. I have to put her in time out (yes i put her in time out for a minute, she understands what she is doing is wrong ), I have her take her nap (she usually starts biting when she gets tired).

    Like a PP said the child could be hungrey or tired. I know thats what makes my kids cranky.

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  • can you expound more? why is it happening by the way? there could probably be a much deeper reason.

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  • Wow I am so glad that I can come on these boards and get such adult answers! Why have I never done this before!??

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    The answer is obvious... she has to kill the 4 year old.  YWIA!

    AGAIN! WOW I am shocked to see such adult advice on here! I should get your opinion more often!

  • image Koroshetz21:

    Wow I am so glad that I can come on these boards and get such adult answers! Why have I never done this before!??

    First of all, you actually got several serious answers.

    Second, if you post without ANY background information and don't come back to clarify, then these are the types of responses you are going to get. No one can truly give good advice without knowing more details about why this is happening.

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    Squirt bottle? It works for my cats

    Works for my cats, too. Probably will work for children as well.

    *shrug*

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    Wow I am so glad that I can come on these boards and get such adult answers! Why have I never done this before!??

    You really did get some good answers. Relay them to your SIL.

    1. The biting child probably needs some more of mommy and daddy's attention - give it, at appropriate times

    2. Put the child in time out EVERY time she bites, at four years old, she should be able to relay exactly WHY she is in time out

    3. Observe and see WHEN the child bites, that will lend itself to a LOT of insight as to the cause of the behavior

    4. Just watch the children, in general, more closely so as to prevent it from happening in the first place

    5. Research some more, read books on it, if it gets worse - take the kid to a shrink 

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    Wow I am so glad that I can come on these boards and get such adult answers! Why have I never done this before!??

    First of all, you actually got several serious answers.

    Second, if you post without ANY background information and don't come back to clarify, then these are the types of responses you are going to get. No one can truly give good advice without knowing more details about why this is happening.

    1st of all I did get some great answers, I was not meaning this against those who did help. That was intended for the 1st response about her paying attention to her kids and stop sewing...not a cool comment.

    2. I dont know much about the situation, my sister in law was talking about her 4 year old beating up her 2 year old...thats all I really know of the situation. I thought since I dont have kids of my own yet that maybe someone who did had gone through a situation like this before and could give advice. But honestly I dont know the whole background. All I know is that she is having trouble with her 4 year old.

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    need more background.

    when is this happening? - I am not sure why, Im assuming if the 2 year old takes a toy the 4 yr old tackles him.

    any clues as to why?

    what's the rest of lifelike?  They live in a different state and I dont get to see them but maybe twice a year. But my husband is very close with his brother and they are a very loving family. They do a lot together and they have good communication with each other (as best as you can with a 4 yr old) The kids are #1 in their lives besides each other. The parents show TLC all the time. Thats all I know...but I am guess at why this is happening.

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