I am getting married in two months and today my fiance dropped a bit of a bomb on me. We have planned to move in with his elderly father who lives alone on a farm and needs some care. His father is supposed to live upstairs in the seperate apartment while we renovate and live downstairs on the main level. I was ok with this because I love his father dearly and the seperation given by the different living areas would give us privacy. Now, however, it turns out that the upstairs apartment wont be ready in time and it looks as if all three of us will be living on the same level.
My issue is that, although it may seem like not a big difference, I am really disliking the idea of living so 'together'. I think part of the problem is that I would literally just be moving into my fiance's bedroom with his father down the hall and no room for my things. I know that his father needs care and I am happy to help and live there but for as long as we have been planning this the understanding was that the apartment would be finished and we would have some privacy. I just don't know what to do....we can't afford our own apartment because we have been putting our savings into renovating the deteriorating house. Is this not really that big of a deal?