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I am having issues

This past Friday I had a follow-up appointment with my doctor regarding my failed IVF and a second opinion appointment opinion with another doctor. Both doctors told me that I need to significantly decrease my exercise (ideally not work out at all beyond walking) and gain some weight - they want me to raise my BMI a bit. Since we're starting another cycle right away I really need to work on this, but it is SO hard. I know I need to it, but mentally, I'm a mess. I don't know how to completely change my thinking like this, you know? I've spent the last, oh, five years, telling myself NOT to gain weight and conditioning myself to work out all the time, and now I need to let myself put on some pounds and lose the work outs. I want this IVF to work so badly, but I'm getting so stressed. I want to gain weight but I'm terrified to gain weight at the same time. I know I need to keep my eye on the prize and all that. I knew you ladies would understand though.

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  • So sorry you are having to deal with this.  I'm sure exercise was an outlet for stress before and now being asked not to workout adds even more stress!

    How about swimming or water aerobics of some sort, but keep the intensity down.  You don't have to throw all eating habits out the window to gain.  Add in a home baked treat to your daily menu or just a scoop of peanut butter could do the trick.

    Good luck!

     

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  • Judging by your sig picture you look pretty healthy to me.  I know this has got to be so hard for you.  I can't imagine trying to gain weight after you have conditioned yourself to eat right, be healthy, and workout.  I know you do some intense workouts based on past posts. Why not trying to just get DH to go for a long walk in the evenings or on weekends.  This way you are exercising (even if it is not the high intensity sweating) and you don't feel like you are just going to become a couch potato!

    Since they always say that losing weight is mostly what you eat this is probably where you'll have to do the most work.  What is your diet like right now?  I am sure the doctors don't want you to stock up on Oreos and eat pizza every night, but they probably want you to add back in certain types of foods that you have conditioned yourself not to eat (like carbs?)  Start following the food pyramid.  Get your complex carbs, proteins, fruits, vegetables, and fats every day.  Enjoy a treat when you want to.  

    Just keep thinking happy thoughts for a happy & healthy pregnancy.  I am sure that once you stop "trying" and thinking about it all of the time, it will happen.  I'll keep you in my prayers. 

  • That sounds like a difficult situation.

    Have you considered seeing a registered dietician to help you develop a diet that you are comfortable with but would still help you gain? Or, even a therapist to talk through the change in attitude towards exercise/diet?

  • See, I feel like I'm perfectly healthy as well, which is part of the problem. I don't think I'm skinny at all. I'm not - I weigh around 136 and am 5'5. I really think the problem is the inensity of my workouts and I have a good feeling that when I stop those I'll gain weight very easily. I never have a problem gaining weight. I eat normally now and don't restrict my diet really, other than the obvious things like not eating huge portions, making healthy choices, not eating dessert every night, etc. So the exercise is the key. It's just hard to think of gaining weight because I like my body the way it is.
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  • You know, my appetite varies directly with my calorie needs. If I go from exercising intensely to sedentary, there may be a couple day lag where I still eat for my previous activity level, but that's it - a couple days. After that, my appetite falls, and I want to eat less.

     I truly believe you will experience the same.

    You will be able to control your weight gain.

     Also, pregnancy is going to make you bigger for sure.

  • It's ok to let go.

    I had to come to terms with letting go of the exercising, and not have it be such a consuming part of my life. I still keep repeating that mantra to myself on a daily basis. 

     Good luck. I've been following your posts, and I'm really pulling for you!

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  • I can totally relate to this.  I was told the same thing when we first started our TTC journey, and managed to gain a couple pounds.  Currently I am 5'8 and 125lbs, and just got a BFP last week.. fingers crossed that it sticks!  My doctor has not said anything about gaining more weight. 

    I have been eating lots of avocado (which I love), eggs, dairy, and that seemed to help.  My BMI is still 19 though, so I don't know what else to do.  You must have a similar body type, where it just wants to stay where it is! 

    Good luck on your next cycle and you're in my thoughts :-)

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  • Someone already mentioned water aerobics, pilates might also be a good choice, your doctor already suggested walking...

    Maybe ask your doc if you can take dancing lessons?  Slower dances like the waltz, rumba, or foxtrot shouldn't be too hard on your body if you only  take 2-3 lessons each week.

    I think if you can find a low impact exercise that you still enjoy, it will make it a lot easier to transition to this new way of life.

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