Hi- I am new here and have never posted before. My MIL/FIL are laid back (almost to a fault) county people. MIL's 50th bday is Oct 10 and DH and I went to dinner with FIL last night. We asked him what he wanted to do for her big day. Note, this is the most unromantic person on earth...FIL gave MIL bob evans take out for their 25th anniv.. He said that he wanted to have a surprise party on the actual day and that he was going to "grill some steaks" and get a veggie tray. They have a very traditional marriage and MIL is always last on the list and never does ANYTHING for herself, so we want her to have a great, relaxing bday. So DH and I are unsure if we should just jump in and help plan, bc FIL did not want to talk about it at all, even though we were at dinner just the 3 of us and it was the perfect time to do it. He was like, I will figure it out, we have plenty of time, etc. He kept changing the subject and did not seem excited at all. Should we jump in a plan most of it? I am afraid it will be a nighmare if he plans it. He has never cooked a meal in his life. I am afraid that if it's going to be at their house, MIL will end up passing out food, cleaning up, etc like she always does and that she will not relax or be able to have fun (MIL/FIL have a 5 year old also who is my BIL.) What should I do? I am not sure what is appropriate for me, I don't want to overstep my boundaries but I also want her to have a relaxing, happy bday. We just thought we would go out to eat, but FIL had other ideas....thanks!
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