I usually post on PCE, but I thought this question seemed better suited for here.
DH & I have been married for about a year, in our house for about 2 years. I have a lot of issues with anxiety and insomnia that I had a long time before I met DH, so he is well aware of all of this and is a good support system in terms of dealing with the anxiety, panic, etc.
The past few months I seem to have trouble getting to sleep in our bed. I get quite restless, and usually end up heading to crash on the couch instead. I usually do this so that I don't disrupt DHs sleep (he has to get up earlier than I do), and I get a decent sleep on the couch so it doesn't affect me too badly.
My counsellor suggested that if possible, I have my own bedroom to fall asleep in at night where I can read, journal, or basically have quiet time that should help with my insomnia. We have extra rooms, so its easy enough to convert one to a bedroom, but I just don't like the idea. I realize that I'm hardly sleeping in our bedroom as it is, but I'm not keen on the idea of officially having separate bedrooms. DH thinks if it will help, then go for it. We do have friends working shift work that have separate bedrooms and they say its had no effect on their marriage.
As a couple, our marriage is good, I just worry that sleeping in separate beds might be a negative thing on our relationship. Any thoughts??