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So Embarassed

So I've been trying to get up enough courage to tell our downstairs neighbor that her music and TV are too loud and if she can keep them down.  Originally when we moved in she stopped me to ask if they were.  I had only been there a day or two and wasn't settled enough to notice them.  But within a few days it was clear they were.  I mean this lady is about 50+ years old and listens to Power 106 and Kiis FM (Rap, hip hop, etc). at incredibly loud levels that you can hear them from either end of the complex.  Eric's solution was to blast the surround sound when we listened to music, watched TV or play video games since you could hardly hear our own stuff with hers on.  She also has a teenage daughter who does the same thing and sometimes will have the TV and stereo on at the same time trying to one up the other.  Well I asked Eric to stop so that I can just ask her to keep it down and I she wouldn't have anything to blame on us. 

Anyway, I went there this morning because her stereo was already pounding at 7:00 this morning and Eric was asleep (he's off today).  When I asked her if she wouldn't mind lowering it her answer was okay.  But you know I hear everything in your apartment too.  She basically told us she could hear our conversations, us use the shower, walking, our TV and having sex Embarrassed.  I kept explaining that I was sorry about the TV and stereo but we've turned them up in the past just to be able to hear over hers.  She obviously knew her systems were loud otherwise she wouldn't have mentioned them from the beginning.  I'm just so embarassed that she said she could hear everything though.  Eric doesn't care and thinks I shouldn't either.  I mean it's not like we are really loud people.  Plus it sounded like she was just making excuses by telling me all that.  Now how do I get the thought of her hearing everything out of my head?!

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  • Ugh, apartment life is so fun, right? Wink I know the feeling well, we could hear our neighbors every move in several apts. that we've lived in. I would never actually bring it up to them though! Thankfully all of ours have been pretty quiet, which may mean we're the loud ones?? There really isn't a lot you can do, I would just try to put it out of your mind.
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  • Haha... sorry I don't mean to laugh, but it is sort of humorous that she would say that. Maybe you guys can try playing music or have the tv on when you're doing things you don't want her to hear.

    I've wondered the same thing about our neighbors, since we live in a condo complex. I never hear anything from either of our neighbors (we're side by side, though) and I wonder if they are all just really quiet or if the walls are that thick. I'm hoping the walls are that thick. 

     

  • Personally I think you should put on one of the porn stations and turn your t.v. up really loud when you aren't there.  See if she says anything about that. 
  • I think she's full of it.
  • imageMrs.S_0909:
    I know the feeling well, we could hear our neighbors every move in several apts. that we've lived in. I would never actually bring it up to them though!

    Now I'm wishing I hadn't.  I've lived in an apartment all my life and understand things can be less private than in a house.  But I've never had anyone be so incredibly loud with their music from 6:30/7:00 in the morning until 11:00/11:30 at night.

  • aww that s*cks.  I had an issue like this in my old apt.  I could hear the couple upstairs... every.single.thing. they did.... including having sex.  it would wake me up at night (their bedroom was over mine)!  I finally had to say something to them which was super embarassing but they quieted down!  good luck!
  • The apartment we just moved out of had paper thin walls and we could hear everything that went on in our neighboring apartments, so of course I was always trying to be careful about loudly I talked. Jason didn't care, but I did.

    From our bedroom you could hear the divorced guy next door talking to his animals, it was hilarious. I was always freaked out that other people were hearing everything that was going on in our apt. It is so so so nice to have a house now and not worry about it anymore!

    I would say if you can't hear her talking and the such from your apartment, then I don't know how she could be hearing you. She was probably just acting defensive about the situation and made up stuff.

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  • The apartment we had before moving to the condo we have now wasn't so bad, but we could hear almost everything the people upstairs did.  They fought all.the.time.  Sometimes it was so bad they would knock *** off the shelves.  The woman was wicked abusive and he just sat there and took it.  One night he actually had enough and told her off to wich DH and I loudly applauded and WOOHOO'd.  He was appreciative...she was less than amused.
  • imagekingpepsisgirl:
    I think she's full of it.

    My thoughts exactly. 

  • imageericandcindy:

    imageMrs.S_0909:
    I know the feeling well, we could hear our neighbors every move in several apts. that we've lived in. I would never actually bring it up to them though!

    Now I'm wishing I hadn't.  I've lived in an apartment all my life and understand things can be less private than in a house.  But I've never had anyone be so incredibly loud with their music from 6:30/7:00 in the morning until 11:00/11:30 at night.

    We have had noise problems in the past with our neighbors too.  Our complex has, for lack of better words, "quiet hours" between 10 pm and 8 am.  If our neighbors are obnoxious during that time the apt manager told me to call the security people and that they would come out and talk to them.  We've done this several times - I think it helped. 

  • imageMrs.G_09:

    I would say if you can't hear her talking and the such from your apartment, then I don't know how she could be hearing you. She was probably just acting defensive about the situation and made up stuff.

    My thoughts exactly.

  • imageericandcindy:
    imageMrs.G_09:

    I would say if you can't hear her talking and the such from your apartment, then I don't know how she could be hearing you. She was probably just acting defensive about the situation and made up stuff.

    My thoughts exactly.

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  • ::HUGS:: Apartments SUCK!  Honestly, I don't think I'd tell my neighbors even if I could hear them having sex.  I'd be too embarassed to admit it.  I doubt she can hear you, sounds like she's just trying to justify being a noisy neighbor.
  • imagekingpepsisgirl:
    I think she's full of it.

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  • I think she's full of it too.  Our townhouse is connected on each side and at the back.  We never hear anyone expect our neighbor to the one side.  Overall, he's a really great neighbor so we never say anything b/c we feel awkward about it.  But he must have some serious sound system- our walls actually shake sometimes.  I don't mind when it's the middle of the day, but there are mornings when the music starts at 7am.  It used to be really bad when Chris worked nights and he'd have to try sleeping during the day when the dance party was going on next door.  It's stressful trying to balance relationships with neighbors...you don't want any strained feelings but you also want to be comfortable in your own space.  I hope her music is lower from here on out!
  • Who says that?!  If I heard the people upstairs having sex, I would never mention it to them.  What a weirdo!
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