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Friend's dilemma with new bf

I have a friend who just started dating this guy. First problem, he is her boss. Okay, second problem. He has a big black bag full of "toys" that he wants her to "play with."  He says these are all "new" toys.  I told her

ewww, they a lot of them and they are already in a big black bag - they are not all brand new!

Do not use someone's old "toys" that is just giving me the heebie jeebies.

What do you think?

 

Re: Friend's dilemma with new bf

  • I think don't sleep with the boss.  But if she does, I'd fill up the sink with bleach water and get to washin' all those toys.  Gross.
  • As a dude, I will say this situation is categorically fukked up.  Not cool.  No normal man would have a "black bag" full of toys that he would offer to women he dates.  That's disgusting and messed up.

    Tell your friend that she has all the information she needs to determine that he's not a keeper. 

  • Has she looked in the bag? 

  • No way those are all new.

    She could offer to bring her own, but does she really want to get it on with a guy who lies to her about used sex toys?

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  • I think she needs a different bf. One that doesn't have the toys already and wants to go shopping with her!
  • Yuck factor aside, I wouldn't want to continue dating someone who thought I was dumb enough to believe that the toys were new.  On top of that, he's a liar!
  • That is just... Indifferent
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    Are you serious???
  • I think she has bigger problems than just dirty toys....like finding a new boyfriend...or a new job.
  • He doesn't want to date her, he just wants to *** her.  What kind of person introduces a big 'bag-o-sex toys' to someone they just started dating?  Used or not, there's something weird about telling her that.

    Personally, I just wouldn't date my boss.  I think at this point, the bag-o-toys isn't her problem.

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  • She's gotta bigger things to consider aside from his funky old bag of used toys. Yuck.

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  • Ick!

    She needs to stop dating him....like yesterday.

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    As a dude, I will say this situation is categorically fukked up.  Not cool.  No normal man would have a "black bag" full of toys that he would offer to women he dates.  That's disgusting and messed up.

    Tell your friend that she has all the information she needs to determine that he's not a keeper. 

    Ding ding ding!

  • well I would almost say this is MUD

    but on the off chance this is real, this really is a no brainer. Time to walk away.

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  • I would classify him as a sever douchebag

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  • uhhhh.......what? ew.
  • Yeah, I have to agree, no way those toys are new, that's pretty disgusting.
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  • Oh, gross.
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  • This sounds like a reaaally quick way to make things very awkward at work.  Water cooler chat, anyone?  YUCK!
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    Ok!  LoriBee ? First, I don?t really understand why any girl would even consider dating the boss in the first place.  Then you tell her to just say NO to this jerk.  She doesn?t need him now or ever.  He?s just not her type.

     

    As for the big black bag of toys (whether they?re new or not) she should have already told him what ? me play with those things ? where?s your brains?  Then tell him what and were he could put them and it baby ain?t with me at all period.  (Be like Ester on Sanford and Son)  ~~Emily~~ Hmm

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  • well, as a fan of many kinds of toys, let me just say that silicone toys can be easily sterilized and used with more than 1 partner. Silicone costs a lot more than the cheapie sex-toy shop variety, but they're the only ones that can be truly sanitized: either boil in water for 10 minutes, or put in the dishwasher (yes, really.) 

    It's also possible that he's used condoms over the insertable toys; his keeps them safe for multiple partners as well. My point is, I wouldn't castigate the guy over his "used" toy bag.

    However, the fact that he's her boss, and has brought out the toybag relatively quickly, well that speaks of something else entirely. THAT is pretty creept, IMO.

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