Where to start...
My MIL has had her issues. She has been divorced twice and has had failed relationships. She has tried to clean out both of those husband's bank accounts, as well as getting credit cards in my BIL's name and racking up 17k in debt (while he was a High School senior). She just seems "shady" to me.
She lost her job earlier this year and moved back in with her father out of state and now only works part time at a retail store. She left everything; her apartment, her car, her furniture and other personal belongings (which are now being housed in my spare bedroom). He is just trying to help her get back on her feet but I'm not sure if that's what she has in mind.
My husband feels that she is not really wanting get back on her feet, but just live off her dad and (in his words) "waiting for him to die" so she can live in his house and drive his car for the rest of her life. While we were visiting for the holidays we did notice something. She had her hair and nails done (which is not cheap to maintain) and also she was using Grandpa's debit card and she knew the PIN number.
Should my husband and I be alarmed? I feel that if she has taken money from her former husbands and son that she wouldn't think twice about doing it to her own ailing father. We have discussed possibly intervening and becomming Power of Attorney for his grandfather. Has anyone had a similar situation? Please help