A few years ago, after realizing that we have 12 adults and 6 kids to buy for, we decided to draw names, and now we've resorted to just buying a grab bag-type gift that we play a game to figure out who gets what gift. We also buy for the 6 kids. M and I generally get my mom a gift as well.
My one SIL posted a note the other day about her intense hatred for Christmas, and how it has turned into this big gift grub and how it's all commercial and how she feels grinchy and what not. It made me really sad to think that she seriously HATES the holidays so much, and it makes me wonder what she thinks of our family gifting. I know that going to the ILs is never fun, especially when staying overnight, but I've never heard her voice such a strong opinion about actually hating it so much.
Anyways...it made me think about how frustrating it must be for them (and other members of my family) who have SO much financial burden and SO many gifts to buy. We don't have such a burden, as we don't have kids to buy for yet, and M's side of the family doesn't so much do gifts, except for Grandma. But really - to buy for 6 kids is a lot, even without everyone else to buy for.
SO...this year at Christmas I thought about proposing that next year, we just do one grab bag gift for the kids, just like we do for the adults. Thing is, I can see a couple of my parent-siblings being offended by this. I think that coming from me, it would come across the wrong way. (Since I don't have kids, and in essence, M and I would basically just get out of buying $100+ in gifts for kids, since we don't have any kids to participate in the cousins exchange, which isn't why I would be bringing it up).
I could care less if we save money or time - we aren't hurting financially, and it took me a whole 20 minutes in Target to shop for them, which I actually enjoyed! I just can see how it's a burden for other members of the family who are beginning to dread the holidays, what with all the gifts they have to buy.
So...is there a way you can see to bring this up without coming across like we don't want to buy gifts for our nephews and niece?