I'm looking for help encouraging a friend, and trying to find something to say besides the usual clich?s that will actually sink in
We've been really close friends since we were little kids, and she honestly has to be one of the smartest people I know. Huge potential. One of those people who could do just about anything, and not just do it well but do it amazingly.
She's absolutely paralyzed by self-doubt. She's afraid to go to college or move forward with her life, because she's worried that she'll pick a vocation and end up hating it. She thought she knew what she wanted to do, but second-guessed herself so much that she's not sure anymore.
I've trying to be encouraging in the best ways I can figure out how. She measures herself against me, so I've told her that there have definitely been times where I've doubted myself, and shared personal anecdotes and ways that I've gotten through it. I've even offered to help her study for SAT/ACTs so she can apply to college, but she's still hanging back.
I really want to help her, but I don't feel like I'm getting through. Is there a better way to be encouraging? And I hate to say this but, is there a point when I have to give up?