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s/o how young is too young?

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How young is too young to have a baby? Or rather, to become a mother?

Mum to W (4) and M (nearly 2)

Re: s/o how young is too young?

  • For me 27 is too young (and I'm not 27 yet)...

    Still in high school is too young.  At least get (the bare minimum) education before breeding! 

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  • Wow, this is impossible to answer, since there are so, so many factors, so I'll cheat and say what age would have been too young for me, anything before 25.
  • Any age before being independent and supporting oneself financially and emotionally.
  • I agree there are a lot of factors.  Usually think I you should be about 25 and have lived on your own, finished school, and paying your own bills before getting married.  Assuming you are married first I would say 26-27 for the first baby.


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  • image LoopyNoodle:
    Any age before being independent and supporting oneself financially and emotionally.

    Ditto this.

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  • image LoopyNoodle:
    Any age before being independent and supporting oneself financially and emotionally.

    This, plus I think you should have at least a high school (or similar depending on your country) degree.

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  • In general, I agree with this:

    image LoopyNoodle:
    Any age before being independent and supporting oneself financially and emotionally.

    For me, anytime before the age of 30 would have been too young.

    ETA: just to clarify, I was all the things Loopy refers to before the age of 30! Just not ready for a baby.

  • I just can't answer this... Obviously there are some ages that are too young - 13 for instance, even 15/16/17... but I definitely have known people at 18 who I would have said would be capable of being a good parent. A better parent than some proper adults that I know. I was certainly a young mother by the standards here - 24 when Bruce was born and I'll be 26 still when this one is born, just a month shy of 27. I guess it really all depends on the person.
  • image LoopyNoodle:
    Any age before being independent and supporting oneself financially and emotionally.

    This would be my answer too

  • We are trying to wait until I am 27 to try for our first. I turn 26 in December so we are basically waiting a year. Honestly though if I were in the same situation I am now, married to a husband with a good job, 5 years ago, I would have been ready then. At the same time I am very glad that I got to have all of the experiences that I have between then and now. But to be honest all I have ever wanted to do with my life is to be a mom. So if that would have happened earlier for me I would have taken it on with open arms.
  • image LoopyNoodle:
    Any age before being independent and supporting oneself financially and emotionally.

    Well put.

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  • image LoopyNoodle:
    Any age before being independent and supporting oneself financially and emotionally.

    Ditto.

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  • I am 27 and consider myself too young to have a baby.


  • image LoopyNoodle:
    Any age before being independent and supporting oneself financially and emotionally.

    Brilliant!  Can't ditto it enough as a general answer.

    For me personally, I just turned 33 and still don't feel ready.  No darn good reason-- known my H for 9yrs+; both have secure jobs... attained our educational goals; have traveled, etc.  I don't know-- just having too much fun to "settle down"... who knows, likely I'll curse myself later, but just don't feel ready yet and think it's better to regret NOT having a baby than have one when you're not fully committed.

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    image LoopyNoodle:
    Any age before being independent and supporting oneself financially and emotionally.

    This would be my answer too

    This.

    So obviously it would be different for different people, but if you can't take care of yourself you should not be taking care of a baby. 

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  • image hamilton.ja:
    I just can't answer this... Obviously there are some ages that are too young - 13 for instance, even 15/16/17... but I definitely have known people at 18 who I would have said would be capable of being a good parent. A better parent than some proper adults that I know. I was certainly a young mother by the standards here - 24 when Bruce was born and I'll be 26 still when this one is born, just a month shy of 27. I guess it really all depends on the person.

     

    I agree with this and what Loopy said.  As long as you can care for the child in every way, I think it's ok.  That could be 18 for some people....35 for many others. 

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