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Poll: Self-Esteem

What percentage of your self esteem is tied to:

Your role as a partner/mother

Your career/education/professional ambitions

Your physical appearance

Other (describe)

Re: Poll: Self-Esteem

  • ooooh interesting!

    Your role as a partner 10%

    Your role as a mother 5%

    Your career/education/professional ambitions 10%

    Your physical appearance 50% (vain much?)

    Creativity 25%

    I think my roles as wife, mother and my, well now non-career, are such low percentages because I feel quite confident about them and so don't feel like they really affect my day to day self esteem, if that makes sense.

  • Your role as a partner/mother 30%

    Your career/education/professional ambitions 10%

    Your physical appearance 40%

    Other (describe) Some is tied to my athletic ability, maybe about 10%, about 10% to writing ability.

  • Your role as a partner/mother 10%?

    Your career/education/professional ambitions and how well I'm doing with them 30-40%?

    Your physical appearance 40% (which saddens me, but I think that's probably right)

    Other (describe) how well I live, so travel, if I'm green, how nice I am to people, etc. 10-20%

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    I think my roles as wife, mother and my, well now non-career, are such low percentages because I feel quite confident about them and so don't feel like they really affect my day to day self esteem, if that makes sense.

    That's interesting, because I answered not just about waht make me feel good, but what I think affects my self-esteem generally. So my lack of career/appearance are often negatives on a day-to-day way, but still big componants of it. Whereas for some reason, being a mum/wife/etc just doesn't figure in! (Self-absorbed??)

    Mum to W (4) and M (nearly 2)
  • Your role as a partner/mother 20%?

    Your career/education/professional ambitions 10%

    Your physical appearance 20%

    Other (describe) how many people like me and want to hang out with me 50%

    It used to be what I did, now that I don't do much it has changed dramatically.

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  •  This is hard!

     Your role as a partner/mother - 10%

    Your career/education/professional ambitions - 20%

    Your physical appearance - 30%

    Other (describe) Intelligence (I guess you would call that Prideful?  oops) - 50%

    This is one of my biggest faults, and one of the only things that leads to ugly behavior in myself.  I have a VERY difficult time feeling stupid or less intelligent than someone. 

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    I think my roles as wife, mother and my, well now non-career, are such low percentages because I feel quite confident about them and so don't feel like they really affect my day to day self esteem, if that makes sense.

    That's interesting, because I answered not just about waht make me feel good, but what I think affects my self-esteem generally. So my lack of career/appearance are often negatives on a day-to-day way, but still big componants of it. Whereas for some reason, being a mum/wife/etc just doesn't figure in! (Self-absorbed??)

     I don't think it's self-absorbed! I should maybe be proud of my education or my few professional achievements, but since living abroad I've really been taken down a peg and realize how little that part of someone may have to do with their actual character or their potential to be a friend to me. I feel weird saying physical appearance is so high, but on a day to day that can affect my mood the most (where as my role as a partner usually gives me BONUS self-esteem) in a negative way...and I feel as though the appearance is in my control so I fixate on it maybe?

  • Your role as a partner/mother - 30%

    Your career/education/professional ambitions - 30%

    Your physical appearance - 20%

    Other (describe) - I know the above does not add to 100% so I would say this is "the rest" - i.e. role as a friend, daughter, sister

    It also depends whether I think of my positive self-esteem or the negative one, I think the figures would differ.

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  • Your role as a partner/mother 10%

    Your career/education/professional ambitions 10-20%

    Your physical appearance 40% - sad, I know

    Other (describe) being a good friend/person and feeling appreciated by people around me 30-40%

  • 10% Your role as a partner/mother

    10% Your career/education/professional ambitions

    20% Your physical appearance

    60% Art/Writing etc.

  • hmm... I have never really though of this... 

    What percentage of your self esteem is tied to:

    Your role as a partner/mother: 20%

    Your career/education/professional ambitions: 20%

    Your physical appearance: 20%

    Other (describe) 40% -- my intelligent, travels, sadly my ability to plan and be organsied, how good of friend/daughter/granddaughter I am. How I can contribute to society as a whole.

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  • Your role as a partner/mother - 2%

    Your career/education/professional ambitions - 30%

    Your physical appearance - 20% (a lot less as I've gotten older...I'm not expecting as much perfection of myself which is a good thing)

    Other (describe) - the rest...it's more about who I am as a person - what good things am I doing for myself & for others around me...some of it is tied up in sports, some of it in friendships, some in my mental state.

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    What percentage of your self esteem is tied to:

    Your role as a partner/mother - 20%

    Your career/education/professional ambitions - 30%

    Your physical appearance - 50%

    Other (describe)

    Sadly, mine is definitely mostly appearance, then my education and lack of career (which I really struggle with sometimes even though I love being at home with Bruce... it's hard, though, to feel like your peers look down on you and are doing "more" than you are). And sadly last is my role as a partner/mother though I hope someday this totally reverses and that becomes the second highest to an "other" category that is "Being Yourself". 

  • What percentage of your self esteem is tied to:

    Your role as a partner/mother 20%

    Your career/education/professional ambitions- I take pride in my education even though I am not using it right now... 10%

    Your physical appearance 30%I thought I would say higher but the older I get the more accepting I am of how I look and it doesn't make me less confident like it might have when I was younger

    Other (describe) 40% here, I would say most of my confidence comes from being a good person, feeling like I am helping others and from being intelligent. I hate when people assume that because I am a hairstylist that I am not smart. I worked very hard to get as far as I have in my industry and I also went to college, and I speak 2 languages. I guess this could have gone under job/education but I didn't put it there since I am not working. I don't think that I would feel this strongly about my intelligence if I didn't feel the need to defend it constantly.


  • What percentage of your self esteem is tied to:

    Your role as a partner/mother:  30%

    Your career/education/professional ambitions: 25%

    Your physical appearance: 30%

    Other (describe):  15% on smaller things, like doing my best to live a green lifestyle, being a good friend and helping out others in need.  Also, my intelligence.  Even though I'm not using my law degree, I still think it counts for something.

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  • What percentage of your self esteem is tied to:

    Your role as a partner/mother: 25%

    Your career/education/professional ambitions: 25%

    Your physical appearance 25%

    Other (describe): I'm going to steal this from tdown and say my intelligence makes up the other 25%. How good I am at something related to my field always has a lot to do with how I am feeling at any given moment. 

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  • Your role as a partner/mother- 0% (I mean, I want to be a good partner, but I don't personally feel esteem from a job well/poorly done)

    Your career/education/professional ambitions 0% (again, I love my job, edu, and career goals, but I don't personally feel 'esteem' from them)

    Your physical appearance-- More than is good, probably 60%.  Unhealthy and not proud.

    Other (describe)-- Just good ol' instilled self-love/value-- 40%

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