DH and I will be married one year on September 2nd. I am already wanting out...let me explain.
DH works for our 911 center. He works 2nd shift, I work 1st shift. His day consists of: Getting up, getting our son up, watching TV until about 1PM when he has to get a shower, get dressed and drop our son off at Grandma's and go to work. He comes up at night, watches TV and go to bed. My day: I wake up at 7AM, go to work, get off work and sit in traffic for 35 minutes on average, pick up my son, go home, cook dinner, clean up house, do laundry, etc. Put son to bed, wait up for DH who comes home and watches TV...I get frustrated and go to sleep.
DH does nothing, and I mean nothing, but watch TV and leaves his crap around the house for me to clean up. There is no affection, no communication. I think MAYBE if I had a TV surgically implanted into my stomach, he MIGHT look at me. We still have sex...but it's when he wants it. I have confronted him about this, told him I wanted out, I wasn't going to live this way. He always talks about how stressed out about how financially strained we are (I was unemployed for 3 months and it made a disaster that I have taken complete responsibility for, and am trying to clean up the mess). Today...I asked him if he'd be willing to talk to someone to help our marriage. He said no. I asked him what if our marriage depended on it, and his reply was "Then I guess you better file for a divorce". He wont' tell me why he is so anti-counseling...but I don't know where else to go with this. I am so happy right now. I am overwhelmed, and feel underappreciated and bluntly, I don't feel like he loves ME, just loves having me home to take of his stuff.
Where do I go from here? Should I start looking into a divorce lawyer, or what? I don't want to end it...we have a kid together, I love him and all...I just am at my wits end.