I love my dh, and his family has deffinately grown to be a part of mine. Two of his brothers are currently going through difficult divorces. I try to stay totally ambivilant about whats happening between ex sil and bils, and I do for the most part (sometimes I tell dh what I really think, but I don't share it anyone else in his family).
My niece celebrated her 2nd birthday in mid September, and bil planned a birthday party for her on his weekend with the chlidren. It worked out great that the weekend he had them fell on the weekend that my other bil had his children, and I was off ( I work everyother weekend). A few days before the party mil called and said that for some unknown reason ex sil decided to keep the kids that weekend and have her own party, and they would have to have dn party the following weekend. Not too big of a deal, I couldn't come the next weekend, but dh could go and take a gift.
A few days later ex sil msgd me and ask how I was doing. I told her I was doing great, and ask her how she was. Her first response was "I'm good, we had the most WONDERFUL birthday party for dd on Saturday". I replied back with "I'm glad to hear it". She then ask me if I was going to the party bil was having for her. I told her no, that I had to work, but that dh would go. Suddenly ex sil got very upset and told me "Well I told mil that everyone was invited to dd birthday that I had, but I guess she didn't tell anyone." A few hours later she called screaming at my mil. Heres what I don't understand....
1. If you really wanted everyone to know that they were invited to the birthday party for dd why didn't you call and invite them instead of relying on your ex mil to do it?
2. If you are going to invite bils entire family, but forbid bil to be there, do you really expect us to go?
I don't know if she was really upset about this, or more upset about the fact that no one really cared that she didn't let dn come that weekend. In the end, shes really only hurting the children.
How would you have handeled this situation?