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general question- i'm ready for flames

So I have noticed a genreal trend and am curious. (also playing devil's advocate...)

So when someone does something wrong, and then serves jail time (or probation/community service/whatever court ordered sentence- regardless if we agree with that sentence or not) at what point should we forgive them? or at least give someone a second chance?

technically the point of these sentences is for rehabilitation as well as punishment, so assuming said person has "paid their debt" to society, how long should we hold a grudge (so to speak) for? who gets to decide when is enough?

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Re: general question- i'm ready for flames

  • It depends on the crime. 

    IMO, some things can't be rehabbed, and some things you can't "pay back your debt". 

    ETA: The book answer for "who gets to say when enough is enough" is a judge, but it will vary person to person.  A victim or the victim's family might be far less likely to ever forgive, whereas the criminal's family will be quicker to trust them again.

    Twin boys due 7/25/12
  • image MrsOjoButtons:

    It depends on the crime. 

    IMO, some things can't be rehabbed, and some things you can't "pay back your debt". 

    just to be difficult- what examples?

    ETA: not that I dont agree with you, I guess I am just feisty today

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  • To some extent, I'm pretty Nietzschean on this subject. A crime that warrants time in prison is a crime I highly doubt I'd forgive.

    ETA: I'm talking about in my personal life, clearly. I am very picky about the people in my life, and I wish people who served their time and were rehabilitated the best of luck, I'm not going to be smoochieface with them, nor will I be their bestie.

    I've seen a lot of military surprise homecomings. It wouldn't work on me. I always have my back to the corner and my face to the door. Looking for terrorists, criminals, various other threats, and husbands.
  • My house was robbed, 5 guys, guns.  Those little fucckers can send me restitution checks (and one of them does, every month), but they can't repay me for how unsafe I feel in my own home.

    Twin boys due 7/25/12
  • Rape, molestation, incest, to name the big ones that I don't feel warrant forgiveness.

    Murder depends on the situation.  If an abused person murders their abuser, I'd forgive them. 

    Twin boys due 7/25/12
  • image MrsOjoButtons:

    My house was robbed, 5 guys, guns.  Those little fucckers can send me restitution checks (and one of them does, every month), but they can't repay me for how unsafe I feel in my own home.

    valid point about feeling safe- also sorry you had to go through that!

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  • sigh, y'all I really wanted a debate. I'm off to find some topic more flame worthy.
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  • LOL.  I think it's quitting time / dinner time for most of the Nesties, so maybe we should try again in an hour or two.

    Twin boys due 7/25/12
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