I need help in dealing with my alcoholic in-laws. Both my MIL and FIL are alcoholics, even though my DH refuses to say they are. Every time we are with them, all they. Luckily they live about 3 hours away and we only see them a few times a month but even that is becoming too much. I am having a hard time dealing with this. Its not like they became alcoholics over night and I understand I married into this but my DH will not work with me to set boundaries. Typically, the problem lies with my MIL. She cannot control her drinking and she ends up acting a fool and saying stupid things and stirring up drama which either leads to her crying at the end of the night or throwing up. At that point, NO ONE can stand to be around her, including my DH and FIL but no one says anything or pulls the beer can out of her hand, which I do not understand. I want to help her and would like to get both my FIL and MIL into a rehab program but my husband says this is how they have always been and they will never change so I need to leave it alone. Since we are now starting to think about children, I am worried about having children and subjecting them to their alcoholic grand-parents because of their terrible lifestyle and behaviors. It scares me to death. Our nieces (my DH?s sisters kids) already cannot stand their grandmother in particular and has told me and my DH numerous times how mean she is to them when she is drinking and they don?t want to be around her. I feel helpless because my husband grew up in this environment and I think is still in denial that they have a problem. The moment anything comes out of my mouth about it, he gets pretty defensive. I try to keep my mouth shut for the most part and I don?t want this to ruin my marriage but it is becoming a problem. I can deal with it when it comes to me, but I refuse to have my future children have an everlasting image of grandma and grandpa with beer cans in their hand. I don?t want them to have the same experience our nieces do with them. Am I making this into a bigger deal than it is? Help!