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Help me decide

So... I am taking the MA teaching certification test so I can expand my job search to public schools in the area. The earliest I can take is September 26th. The next available dates with the test I need to take is in November.

Now September 26th is DH's birthday, but obviously he doesn't mind if I have to test all day. The real problem is that it is the wedding date of a good friend from high school. I am not IN the wedding, but for a variety of reasons I feel bad RSVPing no. 

So is it jerky of me to blow off a friend's wedding to take this test in September? Or is it idiotic of me to put a wedding in front of something that could be important in helping me find steady work? The chances are I wouldn't get a job before Nov. anyway, since jobs usually open up around Dec. when at least a trimester has gone by, but then there is also maternity leave which is one of the common ways to find work in schools these days, and obvious doesn't follow a set schedule. 

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Re: Help me decide

  • What time will the wedding be going on until? If it's a good friend and you explain you'll be testing all day but could maybe make it after 6pm or so I would think they would understand and be happy you could be there for part of it.
  • Ooh, hard. I'd say it depends on how desperate you are to start earning some income, and how close you are to your friend. I have a few friends that, I don't care what's going on, I will not be missing their weddings.

    If this is not one of those types of friends, I would probably take the test.  I get antsy without a job and wouldn't want to postpone the possibility of getting one for two months.

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  • Work.  Money.  Definitely.

     Wedding is great, yes, but I'm sure she would be able to understand your not being there.

  • Loopy - I wish I could do this, I'm sure she would understand. Unfortunately, the testing is 4 hours in the morning, 4 hours in the afternoon, and the wedding is about 3-4 hours away. I doubt I could get there at a reasonable time. 

    Rpic - our relationship is a little... weird. We drifted apart after high school because of some crappy stuff she did. Her mother died suddenly about a year ago, and she contacted me, wanting to make amends and repair our friendship. Then I went away for a year, so she came to my wedding but we haven't seen much of each other otherwise. I would feel bad blowing off her wedding, but at the same time I don't see us finding the time to become close again since we live about 2 hours apart. I guess this kind of answers my question. I probably shouldn't go and take the test instead. I just wish it wasn't on the worst possible day all fall!  

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  • Her wedding doesn't affect the rest of your life. This test does. It wins.

    A true friend would get that. But to get over the guilt, send a nice gift. 

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    Her wedding doesn't affect the rest of your life. This test does. It wins.

    A true friend would get that. But to get over the guilt, send a nice gift. 

    Ah, good point... Nice gift it is!  

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    Her wedding doesn't affect the rest of your life. This test does. It wins.

    A true friend would get that. But to get over the guilt, send a nice gift. 

    definitely this. but see if you can make it for the reception? even if the test ends at 4/5pm, you probably could be at the reception in time to cel-e-brate your test ;-) if there's an open bar, at least. hehe..plus, will there be an after party?

    (this is coming from a woman who desperately needs a night out)

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    Her wedding doesn't affect the rest of your life. This test does. It wins.

    A true friend would get that. But to get over the guilt, send a nice gift. 

    Yes 

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  • Take the test. Skip the wedding.
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