hi. so.. I'm 22 and my husband is 25, we got married last year. We waited till we were married to have sex. I was not a virgin though.. almost but well long story but i had sex a while before that twice with the same person. And although my husband and i try.. we can't seem to get it.. in. The other guy was smaller in that area.. and he was more.. forceful. My husband is bigger.. and he is very patient and sensitive... and i am very small... and right when i think "i can do this this time, no big deal" we try and its like he's trying to create a hole that isn't there... uhg.. after getting married we were sure we'd have a handle on this in a month at the most.. its been a year (in july) and I'm going crazy! I went to the gyno and she told me i was fine.. but something is wrong with me obviously.. I guess I'm just trying to find some advice... or someone in the same situation so i know I'm not a freak. I feel horrible.. although my husband patience is endless. idk what to do... : /
'almost' means a lot of girls have had LOTs of sex before marriage and i waited until i was 21 and got married at 22... almost? get it? lol
and i dunno what "MUD" means but I haven't been on this site since i was planning my wedding a looong time ago, in october of 2007. my mother ruined that dream and we ended up eloping a while after.. july 2008.
as for the questions from people who aren't jerks:
he has no problem getting hard..
we do A LOT of foreplay.
He gets me to climax manually before trying to enter so i am really wet but it doesn't seem to help
we've used lube but it gave me a yeast infection : / (2 different kinds, uhg)
we read books... i went to the gyno... we tried different positions...
I think people might be right about the vaginismus thing. I've been reading about it and it makes sense.. i was molested as a child and i have a lot anxieties about sex. but even without that, i think i am just very small.. I'm petite and short and i guess that applies to every part of my body.
thanks so much for all the advice.. i appreciate it :]