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WDYT about...

Anal.

My DH is always trying to get me to do this with him. We have tried it once and I didn't like it. He says that time "didn't count" because he didn't get it all the way in, so I don't know if I like it or not. So what do you guys think? Should I give it another try? What are your experiences with this?

Re: WDYT about...

  • If you didn't like it why would you do it again? That didn't count bullsh!t is stupid. You know what you want to do and what you don't. Don't do it if you don't want to. It's your body.
  • Dh and I had tried and he barely got the tip in before I made him stop.  Then last new years after a bit too much to drink we just did it.  Actually when it first goes in it can be a little painful.  But after a few seconds it doesnt hurt anymore.

    Could you try and ease up to it with a finger (he can put a condom on if it grosses him out) or possibly a small sex toy?

  • I've had a similar situation and I hated it too, so I'm never doing it again. Dh still talks about it sometimes, but I'm not going to make myself extremely uncomfortable for the sake of sex. Sex is supposed to be romantic and is made for you guys to feel close, and if it's hurting you or you don't like it, just dont do it and your man should understand.
  • I tried it once a long time ago with an X.  He barely got the tip in before I stopped him, that was enough for me.  I've never wanted to try it since, and DH is fine with that.  He would never pressure me into doing something that I don't want to do.  I agree with Kris that the "didn't count" is BS.  If you don't want to do it, then don't.  If he still bugs you to do it, then he's an _ass.
  • Yeah he shouldnt be bugging you about it.  Dh never asked me about it, I was the one who innitiated it again (like I said, after too much to drink lol)
  • How about this: buy a toy and put it in his butt.  If he doesn't mind and it doesn't hurt him, then I would say give it another try.  I'm going to guess he will say 'hell no!' Why should it be different for you?
  • He needs to lay off the damn porn.  Since when did sex become more about using your partner as a blow up doll to fulfill your fantasies than about connecting with someone and having a mutually great time?
  • I agree 100% with longlivekuus.
  • Give it another try. You will love it trust me. You need to please your man as I do.
  • I did not like it at first either. However, I will do it now if I am really really in the mood. It drives my DH wild knowing that I am going to let him. The trick is warming up with fingers or toys and lots lots lots of lube. He should also wear a condom.
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  • I totally agree with TheCalhoons.  Condoms make things cleaner, but you need to use a lot of lube and go slowly.  It hurts like hell at first, but is very erotic if he goes at your pace
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